Dating Styles

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Dating Styles
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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 10:12am
Dating styles. What is your dating style? Are you a go-getta or more casual? Do you go after what you want or wait for it to come to you? Do you throw subtle hints or are you direct? Are you assertive or passive? Please don't confine your answers to these few questions. They are only there as examples. Explain your dating style.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: tstephnic
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 11:04am
I'm a "wait-for-it-to-come-to-me" kinda of gal, because I'm usually too shy to make a first move.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: tstephnic
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 11:56am
I hate to be vague but I don't have a style. I go with instinct. Sometimes I'm passive but sometimes, I'm aggressive. I'll observe a guy I'm interested in for a while, if I have that opportunity. If it seems he's interested, but shy, I'll lay it on really thick and see if that gives him enough confidence to ask me out. If not, I'll go for it. I would never go after someone until I knew, beyond a doubt, that he was interested. If he's an outgoing guy who doesn't seem hard up for a date, 99% of the time, I let him come to me.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: tstephnic
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 2:21pm

I am absolutely a "wait for it to come to me" person. I know this is 2007, and that women are capable of making the first move and all that, but from my own personal experience, waiting for the guy to make the first move has always been more successful.

AFTER that, I go on instinct. I don't get into the "who calls who" thing - if I feel like calling him, I'll call him, but I certainly don't want to be the one who does ALL the work. If I see that I'm the one pulling most of the weight, I'll leave him be and see what happens.

But at the BEGINNING, I'm more traditional. If you want to court me, you have to court me.

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Registered: 12-27-2006
In reply to: tstephnic
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 6:03pm

I am so not a wait-for-it kind of gal!