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|Wed, 08-13-2014 - 9:43pm|
My initial post caused more of a stir than I intended, but I did want to thank those who provided thoughtful advice, and provide a quick update.
Aiden and I did have another weekend date together a week and a half ago. I was pretty sure at that point that I was far more interested than he was. We had a good time, but it just didn't feel like we were emotionally connected. We've talked a few times since then, and it's been just like friends talking. (We have known each other a long time, and have no trouble talking.)
So I finally brought it up, and asked if he was still interested in dating, or wanted to go back to just being friends. He admitted he wasn't feeling as strongly about me as he did in the beginning. Part of that was the distance, but he felt that he would have been willing to overcome the distance if he felt more. He was happy I brought it up, and we could talk about it.
I told him we'd definitely still be friends, but I need some space. That shouldn't be hard since we do live 4 hours apart. I just hid from from my newsfeed in Facebook, and don't plan on texting/calling him for at least a few months. Maybe that sounds extreme for just a few dates, but I want to make sure my heart heals.
I am sad that the feelings weren't mutual, but don't regret taking a chance. In the meantime, I am continuing to settle into my new place. I am going to a trivia event next week with Meetup, and trying a new yoga studio. And of course, texting my friends who have been supportive.
And so the search continues.....