at a dead end with family

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Registered: 04-25-2004
at a dead end with family
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:48am
Sometimes I feel like all my parents and grandmother are doing are just waiting for me to get married and have kids already and that because i'm over 30 and still single, they sort of don't know what to say to me anymore. all of their friends are planning weddings, awaiting babies, talking about their grandkids, visiting their grandkids, and she has nothing to add. she even mentioned to me once that two of her friends talk and talk about their children and their children's spouses and grandkids and "she has nothing to add." After speaking with my mother recently it occurred to me that we just have nothing to talk about. Our conversations have gotten really short and the only thing that seems to interest her is gossip. When I bring up subjects outside of gossip, she sounds bored with the subject, changes it, or even if it has to do with an interesting news event she'll just say "that's too depressing I don't want to think about it," or "I don't care, it has nothing to do with my life." I get the feeling all she wants are grandchildren to talk about and she doesn't have them, so I've become someone who bores her. do any other singles out there feel like this has happened with their parents?

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 5:23pm

Well, the eyeroll was supposed to be funny, too....I can't put smiley faces after EVERYTHING.

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 11:36pm
Oh, I hear ya! My parents are actually pretty good about not bothering me about having kids/getting married.
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Registered: 09-20-2007
Thu, 09-20-2007 - 2:54am
Yeah, im from a large European family they've been planning my marriage since birth, except my mum, she says go have fum get a life, don't get married, which is odd coz she seems to have the happiest mariage of all of them.
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