Define NORMAL GUY for online dating
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Define NORMAL GUY for online dating
| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 12:35pm |
I was just reading a thread where towards the end it was mentioned that they are "just looking for a normal guy."
What are some of the traits that you would be looking for in a "NORMAL GUY" -- I am curious to see if there are conflicting answers or if the answers become similar. I would also be curious to have a demographic of each response:
(1) Define what a Normal Guy is to you?
(2) Provide a geographic region you live in (i.e. state)
(3) Provide your income range ($20K to $30K)
(4) What was the length of your last relationship
(5) How long ago was you last relationship
(6) What age bracket are you in (18-25)(26-35)(36-45)(46-55)(56+)
Maybe iVillage will do a story off of this??? Doubt it but lets have fun!
Edited 4/25/2007 2:40 pm ET by longtime_luvr

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"Just for fun"
(1) Define what a Normal Guy is to you? Emotionally stable, well rounded, does well in social settings but also enjoys staying in, reasonably attractive, decent sense of humor, confident, gainfully employed.
(2) Provide a geographic region you live in (i.e. state) Middle TN
(3) Provide an income range ($20K to $30K) Mine or the prospective guy?
(4) What was the length of your last relationship: 4 years
(5) How long ago was you last relationship: LTR: 8 years ago. A few months here and there: 3 years ago, have been on hiatus since then(and it's been a great vacation).
(6) What age bracket are you in (18-25)(26-35)(36-45)(46-55)(56+): (26-35)
(1) Define what a Normal Guy is to you? Someone who works, pays his bills on time, lives on his own, has his own car, doesn't think spit balls are funny, someone who respects women, elders and himself, someone who wants a family, doesn't laugh at others misfortune, likes to have fun, can relax, isn't uptight all the time, likes sports.
(2) Provide a geographic region you live in (i.e. state), New England
(3) Provide an income range ($20K to $30K) For who?
(4) What was the length of your last relationship 7 Years
(5) How long ago was you last relationship several years ago
(6) What age bracket are you in (18-25)(26-35)(36-45)(46-55)(56+) I am in the 26-35 age bracket however I would rather date men in a 30-40 age bracket.
Smile,
Deirdre
(1) Define what a Normal Guy is to you?
A "normal" guy to me is someone who, when I read their profile or talk to them, doesn't have something or other that makes me think, "ugh!" Things that make me go "ugh!" are:
~ bitterness towards women (guys who go off on how "nice guys finish last", or complain about all the women who have "screwed them over")
~ apparent drinking/drug problem
~ below average intelligence (I'm talking FAR below average)
~ questionable hygeine practices
~ seems socially inept
~ seems to be unemployed or underemployed yet does not do anything to change his situation (exception would be if the under/unemployment were due to his having enough money to live off of without working, or due to illness/injury)
~ has a criminal record
(2) Provide a geographic region you live in (i.e. state)
I'm in MA, not far from the Boston area
(3) Provide an income range ($20K to $30K)
My income range is about $30K or so...I like to date guys who make at least that (because it's pretty darn tough to sustain oneself in MA on that, nevermind LESS than that - I just started working a second job to cushion myself a little).
(4) What was the length of your last relationship
The one I'm in now has been going on for 4 months...before that, 10 months...longest relationship: 4 years that included living together for over 3 (relationship ended because, after 4 years, I wanted more of a commitment, i.e., marriage, and he was not ready for that)
(5) How long ago was you last relationship
Again, I'm in one right now, but prior to him, I was single for over a year.
(6) What age bracket are you in (18-25)(26-35)(36-45)(46-55)(56+)
I'm 29, so I'd be in the 26-35 bracket.
Why would you rather date an older man?
::(3) Provide an income range ($20K to $30K) For who?
For you. I revised the question to reflect that.
:: bitterness towards women (guys who go off on how "nice guys finish last", or complain about all the women who have "screwed them over")
Are there many dates where this has come up or in conversations?
Being that my ex and I are on great terms (if we did not have our 10 yr old son then different). The different being first that I would not be in WI - I would have moved to one of the Southern States already - away from the high taxes and SNOW!!! With the relationship I have -- there has never been the thought of what you mentioned above.
::decent sense of humor, confident, gainfully employed.
The sense of humor thing can be taken sooo many different ways -- mine is usually more dry - I have often been told not to quit my day job -- 'cause I would never make it on the comedy circuit. :) Oh well - we can't all be that funny.
::(3) Provide an income range ($20K to $30K) Mine or the prospective guy?
I modified the question - I am asking about your income range.
I'm sorry, if you are a regular poster, I do not recognize your "name". I am just curious, are you male or female? I'm a bit confused which, is not uncommon for me.
Just a healthy sense of humor. Dry is great, love sarcasm, but I have dated a few guys who have NO sense of humor. Period. Ick.
Edited 4/25/2007 3:25 pm ET by cfk_3
Because I am 33 and I find age 30-40 is the range I like to date. They are in my maturity level under 30 is just not in my maturity level. Your age range 26-35 is my age range however I would never date a man age 26.
My income level is close to 40k.
Smile,
Deirdre
I'll reply, but my income range is not relevant -- I'm employed, am a homeowner and take care of myself just fine. I am 32. Longest relationship was 5 years.
For me, a "normal man" is one who is not extreme about any one activity. I live in Colorado, and a lot of people move here (understandably) for the mountains. I LOVE the mountains. I like to hike, ski, snowshoe, etc., but I am far from extreme about any of those activities.
I cannot tell you how many men here latch onto some outdoor activity like their lives depend on it. Half of them are auditioning to be the next "Man vs. Wild." The last guy I dated even told me that it was his dream in life to be that guy.
You get the idea. I'm looking for a guy who knows how to "just be" sometimes, and doesn't have to be conquering nature every day. Someone who won't expect me to camp on the side of a glacier in February. Someone who appreciates that I wear something other than Gortex every day.
The essence of it is a man who doesn't need a label (mountain-biker man, successful-CEO man, I-own-a-Harley-and-post-60-pics-of-it-in-my-profile man) to be himself. So many people online define themselves by their activities - but that just doesn't get to the heart of who they are.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
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