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Sun, 12-08-2013 - 7:45pm

Two things have prompted this post.  First in reading many of the responses to my Crazy In Love post it appears that many of you would rather not have all the emotional drama.  Secondly, my latest conversation with MB. I had my work Christmas party last night, at which I may have had a few too many.  MB heard from his friend that did attend and was all worried about me driving home.  Through texting he wanted to come drive me home (he did not go to the party) or have his friend take me.  I told him I was fine and able to drive myself....and I was.  So he called me later to make sure I got home safely and of course we ended up talking for over an hour as usual with us.First he told me again that his feelings for me confuse him and because he doesn't know what to do he does nothing. He told me that he doesn't believe in having sex to have sex. To him sex means a one night stand, he likes to make love.  He then mentioned him becoming my boy toy,lol. I told him that seemed a bit contradicting and asked how he would be able to keep feelings out of the way.  He told me that he wasn't sure he could and that he could see himself falling in love with me, which scares him. I've already told him in the past that I didn't think I could do a fwb because I felt my feelings would get in the way. And it's not that I have anything against people having a fwb thing, just not sure I can. Or maybe it's just that I couldn't with him?  So anyone here that has had or would have that sort of thing I just wonder how you do or would do it.  Do you pick men you find unattractive?  And if so how do you become intimate with someone you are not attracted to?  Or do you pick men that are somehow unavailable, either married, or emotionally unavailable?