Depressed because I'm single OR....
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Depressed because I'm single OR....
| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:08pm |
single because I'm depressed? I'm starting to come to the realization that I am truly depressed and that is probably the cause of my being single. I just don't understand why it is so easy for some people and how things just seem to fall into place for others but for me it seems like I'll never have a family of my own. Does anyone else feel this way? I've noticed some other posts about dreading the holidays and I feel the same way. I have a large extended family and plenty of people to spend the holidays with BUT it's the first year I wont have anyone special with me or even anyone special to talk about. To make things worse, I'm going to see my cousin who just had a baby with his girlfriend in August and my own mother is more excited about seeing that baby than she was for both of my college graduations put together! How do you deal with that? I feel like such a disappointment to my family...even though I know that's rediculous. Ugh! Anyway, thanks for letting me rant.

You're not alone. I guess that in itself isn't really much comfort but remember, it's been recently reported that fewer people in the US are married now than there are singletons.
I have family members who have been married for over 15 years who seem like robots to me. Get kids off to school, go to work, come home, do homework, try to fit in dinner before taking kids to this practice and that game oh and don't forget piano lessons, birthday parties, sleep overs and church on Sunday!?!? I rarely see them truly enjoying life or, each other for that matter. This isn't just one family member either, it's several. Add to that bills and trying to make room for extended family, trying to balance time between divorced in-laws during the holidays. I get stressed just thinking about it! I know that marriage and kids has some perks too, but I never hear anyone talking about any of those. It's always stress, stress, stress, stress, stress. Witnessing all of this just allows me to appreciate being single a little bit more. It's not the worst thing that could happen to a gal ; )
It is hard being single during the holidays but the best thing to celebrate is all that you have in your life that you are thankful for instead of thinking about what you don't have. Easier said than done I know and being single in the past has caused me to be depressed and I have had to take meds. But all you can do is talk yourself out of the depression and find happiness in other things and have hope that you will find that special someone.