Desperation: The ultimate man magnet

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Desperation: The ultimate man magnet
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Sat, 05-05-2007 - 3:05pm

Last night when we were out bowling, I observed something that made me wonder.

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Sat, 05-05-2007 - 3:19pm

I have to laugh at this because I have seen this happen over and over and over again.


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Sat, 05-05-2007 - 3:34pm

Ya know what, though?

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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 12:34pm

<<"high-maintenance" fashion>> That's funny. What's also funny is that I read your other post before reading this one. Guess she got her attention all right(if it's the same girl). Tee-hee.

I get your theory but I have a question. Guys claim to be dense in the woman area. Do they KNOW that the girl is desperate. Do they know she's an easy target? I have a friend just like this one you speak of and I know she's desperate, but she feigns confidence really well when we are in a setting where she could potentially meet someone. I don't know that I would see through the act especially if I were a guy.

This friend of mine is always getting um, laid. Sorry, just putting it on out there. However, as soon as "they" realize what they've gotten themselves into, they disappear. In a way, I feel badly for her but I have all but come out and told her that she needs to play the game. She said she doesn't like playing games but I don't know why because what she's doing is obviously not working out.




Edited 5/6/2007 12:40 pm ET by cfk_3
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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:22am

Is your friend a drama queen as well? Because I have a theory that it is the drama that draws men in like flies. I have seen this time and time again with friends and co-workers. The women with the most drama and chaos in their lives are never without a man. Men will hit on them and fall all over them no matter where they are. It is something I have not been able to figure out.

YG

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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:52am

I can't figure it out, either - it has happened to me, time and time again.

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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:44pm
Honestly, I think some of these men think "easy target." If she seems down and depressed, aloof from her friends, she's vulnerable to more of the predator types. That hint of desperation probably doesn't hurt.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 7:06pm

Oh, yes.

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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 11:29am

She's an "easy" target. Kind of like how lions will go after the weak or baby deer..... She is an easier catch and they will not have to work very hard at it. They can sense desperation and will go after anything they can possibly get lucky with. I never understood this until I started to date my boyfriend. Now it all makes sense to me...

I always thought they went after the unattainable and prettiest. Not the case...

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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 11:55am

What's her phone number?

*smirk*
Mark

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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 10:33pm

Sorry, Mark.

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