Did he Get jealous ? need help understanding this man

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Registered: 05-30-2012
Did he Get jealous ? need help understanding this man
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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 1:48pm

 There was a guy that I saw a few times and I liked him but he seemed just a player. It was like he got tired of me and moved on. Yesterday a friend tried to set me up with a friend of hers just to meet and hang out and we go to play pool, cornhole ect..and this guys turens out to be a best friend to guy A mentioned above. We were not on bad terms it was just like it fizzed out. As the night progressed his behavior struck me odd. He ignored me and made sure I saw him fliting with a girl.He then plays cornhole with this girl, me, the date (his friend) and decides that him and I are to be teammates (instead of him and this girl?) Later he acts mad and gives me the MAD AS HELL face. I just dont know. Did he get jelous? This girl even made a point to walk up to the car when we were leaving and told him she would see him at her place..I got the feeling it was a "meant for me to hear" thing. If he had wanted me, why did he leave me hanging before. I had really cared for him and he led me on with sweet lines. I dont want him mad but I was under the impression that all I had been to him was a hookup

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 10:21am
"I don't want to strain there friendship and how do I get past jerk being in mg life constantly if j end up seeing this guy"

If you are interested in the friend, then date him. When you encounter the other guy, just be pleasant and cordial no matter what. Kill them with kindness, as they say. It works almost every time. Eventually, I think the awkwardness of the whole situation will fade.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
If you like the friend, go. You have absolutely no obligation to the player!
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Registered: 05-30-2012
The friend did ask me on a date today to the movies. I don't want to strain there friendship and how do I get past jerk being in mg life constantly if j end up seeing this guy
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Registered: 05-30-2012
Hello , yes I actually had great conversation with his friend. I'm sure he sensed it was going well too because at one point he tried to lure him away from the table to play pool but his friend woukdnt leave me or the conversation. It feels like a weird situation because they are good friends. I was blind sided by how close and it worries me that it couldn't work. I'm sure his friend saw his additude change and prob made him uncomfortable
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Registered: 05-14-1999
"but I was under the impression that all I had been to him was a hookup"

If that's how he made you feel, I'm sure you had reason. I'd pat myself on the back for having moved on. Sounds as if you've dodged a bullet, in my opinion. I'm sure you can do better.

Good luck!
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Registered: 05-10-2012

Do you really care if/why he was upset?   I certainly wouldn't.  He had his chance.  Sounds like a bit of a player and he *wanted* to get a rise out of you.

As to shy's question - what about the guy you were actually with?   Or were you so busy being worried about the player that you forgot you were on a date with someone else?

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Registered: 07-16-2001
More importantly...did you like the guy you were actually out with??
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Registered: 02-13-2006

He's just jelous and full of himself because he's mad that his best friend is with you and not him..or he sees it as a betrayal for you to go out with his best friend when you had already gone out with HIM..eventhough you had no idea that they knew each other...oh well.You did nothing wrong.,..he's just a jerk and that girl with him..you should feel sorry for her because he's probablygoing to  throw her away once he's done with her.