Disappointed and tired
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| Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:20am |
I can't even meet someone who I would want to see for a second date!
I am not talking about they're not good looking enough or rich enough or thin enough, etc...
I am meeting guys who are upset that I don't fall in love on the first date or ones who clearly tell me they don't have time for a relationship,right off the top! This last one got insulted that I didn't let him come over after our first date!
I would have liked to get to know all of them but their expectations were so unrealistic that it's left me baffled.
Finding a mate is so much work. Hard work and I'm not having fun. It's like going on a ton of job interviews. It's work to find a job to apply for then to work on getting the interview and finding it's not a good match, you're back at square on over and over again....

I know what you mean. Dating is not fun, I don't enjoy it, I'm tired of it and have been doing it far too long.
listen girls... you could be me and meet a guy and hang out for 6 wks or so and everything is great!
Now you know why there are so many single women out there.
Finding a mate is so much work. Hard work and I'm not having fun. It's like going on a ton of job interviews. It's work to find a job to apply for then to work on getting the interview and finding it's not a good match, you're back at square on over and over again....
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If it makes you feel any better at all it is the same for us guys. (-: It is part of why I stopped dating for so long.
I am sorry you're so frustrated, and clearly you are putting good effort into trying to get to know people.
I agree. I met this lawyer who called me 5X a day. A car crashed into mine and totaled my car. I was lucky, he called me constantly and looked up cars etc on the computer. He was a big help. even tho we went out twice all the calls made it seem as tho we were developing a friendship. I was watching his drinking and listening and evaluating. We had LOTS of commonality. He called once in the last week and does not answer e-mails. I invited him some place via e-mail. If i don't hear, I will e-mail him and say i don't want to waste his time, we want different things. I see he is on line at yahoo presently. He is divorced for the 3rd time, it is just such a pain. Had a date with a guy I met in a doc's office. he is now having his gall bladder out so he had th cancel the date. . he is a healthy guy, lives on a farm in Maine, ponies, turkeys, chickens. he seems like such a down to earth really nice man. I don't want to live in the boonies but will meet him after he recovers. Disapointed about the lawyer but i am going slow so my heart doesn't get hurt. He is appearing with lots of red flags. Losing interest fast.
had a good time alone watching a movie tonight. leila
I agree with all that has been said except with the men...............
Men are dissappointed with the QUALITY of their choices, not lack there of............
We women are dissappointed with the quantity and quality...........
I think it just gets so tiresome. You begin to lose faith in everything really. Take me for example..........
There is this person who I finally like after years of being closed to the possibility and yet he's not into me......
How do I stop from feeling hopeless?? How do I stand above the CROWD of desperate women in this place who want him too.........
I go from these feelings of admiration to anger on a constant basis. When I see him, I admire who he is and how he has lived his life, then I get angry that I am not the one he wants.........
I try everything else and nothing works. I see all kinds of women who are as single as I am and it makes me further despair..........
I see the women in my life (friends and family) staying with men or accepting less than they deserve because the pickings are so slim and it's better to be Mrs. Unhappy Wife than to be Ms. Unhappy Single Girl.........
How do you not appear desperate?? How do you keep from being that way when time after time you fail at relationships and dating.........
In our work lives, the mission is clear. Market your best assets to get the job or career you want. You send out 100 resumes hoping for at least a couple of interviews that may lead to only ONE JOB!!
We accept that in our work life and know it's just par for the course. However, in our dating and romantic lives, it's the exact same way and we can't take it.........
That's because, at some point in the job hunt, you can at least find a reasonably suitable job that will help you maintain your lifestyle, in the dating market, you come up with DUDS over and over and over again, the hope just begins to fade..........
Who knows!! Maybe we are fighting our fate. Everyone doesn't marry and settle down. Maybe we are in that group and don't realize it.......
I just want to be special. I want to be that one that gets noticed above the crowd. Not one of the same.
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