Do All Women Want Children?
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Do All Women Want Children?
| Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:05pm |
I have a few basic questions that I would really like to get some peoples' perspectives on. When answering, can you please state if the answer you give is how you think most women feel, if the opinions are your own personal beliefs, etc? Thanks.
1.Do most women want to have children?
2.Why is it so important to have children?
3.If a guy said upfront that he ABSOLUTELY did not want kids, do you think most women would pass him by?
Kind of curious here. I know people who are of varying mindsets on this issue. Thanks.

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Hi,
You can't generalize & say "most". I am speaking only for me. I have never had the urge to have kids. I like them, but it's hard enough raising yourself & based on my own upbringing, I would rather not. I just never ever felt like I wanted to have them, yet I have dated guys with them. If I loved someone, I would consider adopting.
Do most women want to have children?----I think so but not me
Why is it so important to have children?----spread the bloodlines, to bring a life into the world, peer/social pressure, think they can do things differently, change the world.
If a guy said upfront that he ABSOLUTELY did not want kids, do you think most women would pass him by? yes. But I would be interested in him. I am still single & I meet guys that want to have kids...it becomes a problem despite the gender.
at times, I would like to have children. But would I ever be ready to have children, when the times come. I am not a point in my life, where I ready to have the children or get marriage for that matters. Because, If I am not married by late 30s, I might considered adopting a child.
Yes, I think most women (as in way more than half) want to have children. I really can't speak on the reasons why it's so important, as I've never been someone who felt she absolutely had to have kids to feel like her life was complete.
And yes, the women who really want to have kids would almost certainly pass by a man who said he didn't want them...it wouldn't make sense for them to date someone who didn't want kids, if they do. It would be like me dating someone who absolutely didn't want to get married, when that's something that is important to me...it would make no sense.
Sheri
1.Do most women want to have children?
Most but not all.
2.Why is it so important to have children?
People have them for different reasons but I think probably the underlying reason for most people is that the basic drive of all life on Earth is to procreate. I personally like the idea of a little part of me living on after I die.
3.If a guy said upfront that he ABSOLUTELY did not want kids, do you think most women would pass him by?
Yep. I imagine it's very difficult to find someone who doesn't want to have kids. Your best bet is to find someone who already has kids with someone else and doesn't want any more.
Iri
1.Do most women want to have children?
Most females I have met want to have children AT SOME STAGE. They haven't set a time line on it, but they think of it as something they would like to do in the future. Me personally, I don't want kids. I'm too selfish. I want my career, and I don't want anything to jeopardize it.
2.Why is it so important to have children?
That's like asking the meaning of life. It's the idea of passing your genes into the next generation. Hormones dictate that females have a nurturing behaviour that needs to be fulfilled.
3.If a guy said upfront that he ABSOLUTELY did not want kids, do you think most women would pass him by?
Can't speak for most women, but I assume that if they ABSOLUTELY did want kids, then they might do just that (unless they thought they might swing you around). For a female that doesn't want kids, then they wouldn't have a problem with it.
Janet
I can only speak for myself here and I realize that I'm probably in the minority.
I'm about to turn 34. I have never been maternal. Everytime I get any sort of inkling of "maybe having a child might be fun" I realize that I'm too selfish and self-centered and would not want the responsibility. Babies are cute and everything but they are a lot of work, expensive and they don't stay babies.
For the most part I only date guys who have the same feelings. I would run screaming from a guy who absolutely NEEDED to have children.
I have a cat. She's my baby. She doesn't talk back, she isn't that expensive and she's always glad to see me.
Now for OTHER women - why the importance on having kids? I think that reason can vary widely. The women I know personally (in my little social circle) had them because they got pregnant. And it's no more mysterious than that. But those are my friends - they're a little different. :)
1.Do most women want to have children? It seems to me that most do but absolutely not all.
2.Why is it so important to have children? You'd have to ask someone who wants them - I have no inclination for it myself. I LOVE being an aunt but that's good enough for me. I like my lifestyle. I like traveling and spending money on shoes and being able to have dinner with friends and not worry or have to leave early so the sitter can go home.
3.If a guy said upfront that he ABSOLUTELY did not want kids, do you think most women would pass him by? Again, I think that a lot of women want to have kids and that is one of those non-negotiable things that should be decided early. If you know you want to have kids, why waste your time with someone who knows that they don't? I have written on here before that it sometimes makes dating tougher for me because I don't want kids and, believe it or not, most men do.
1.Do most women want to have children?
I think at a certain point in their lives, yes, MOST, not ALL women, want children. The older they get without having them, the less likely they are to want them anymore.
2.Why is it so important to have children?
I think 2 factors are at work here. All creatures have a strong biological desire to reproduce and perpetuate their species. Secondly, there is a lot of societal expectation and conditioning to reproduce.
3.If a guy said upfront that he ABSOLUTELY did not want kids, do you think most women would pass him by?
Too many factors here to say MOST women. Do they want kids at all? Do they already have kids and don't want anymore? Did they once want them and change their minds? Are they ambivilent?
I'm one who never wanted kids. Have one, who was completely unplanned. He's very much loved, a very cool person, but if I could go back in time and change things, I wouldn't have had him. And you wouldn't believe how I've been attacked for being honest about that.
Hmmm this is interesting... I'm surprised how many of us don't want children (or in my case aren't sure) - why do you think that is?
Have you all ALWAYS felt that way or do you think it's a product of being single for so long and getting set in our ways and selfish-type lifestyles? Do you think it's because we've not met a guy that just made us want a child with him... meaning I don't think I want children but if I met the love of my life would I WANT to have his baby?
The answer intrigue me!
I'm 29 and not sure I want children. Seems almost selfish these days to have children. But I'd like to experience that getting pregnant moment and announcing it - going through pregnancy and the birth process - and the first year or so... after that I'd like to skip to 4 and raise till about 9... then be done! :p So... I probably am not qualified for having kids! :p
I'm not sure I think MOST women want them... some just get them ;) and there seems to be a rising number of women who are okay with out them. I'd say maybe 65% of women WANT children. But 75% have them! if that makes sense.
The other two questions I can't really comment on - but I can't say I'd date a guy who didn't want children... now figure that one out! :p
1.Do most women want to have children?
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