Do I just not care anymore?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2007
Do I just not care anymore?
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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 12:59am

I have noticed lately I am really not into dating guys. After my last horrible breakup a few months I am just not into making the effort. It's not like I am not being asked out, it's just that I can't get in the mood to put myself out there. Has this ever happened to you? I worry that maybe when I am ready for something significant the dates will have dried up. I am just so busy right now and feel like I only have time to take care of myself. I have also been seek for a few weeks with a cold, maybe that has me worn out.

I also get freaked out when guys ask me how come I am single. I just feel is such a weird/rude question. Like they think I am so great, but they are trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I don't even know how I am supposed to answer that. I mean, what kind of question is that? why are they single?

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 1:33am

If I read the post right, after only a few months post-break-up I think that's completely normal. Most people don't want to jump right back into dating after getting out of a relationship anyway.


I'd try not to worry about it and just invest in some time with yourself, doing things that you enjoy and working on yourself as a person. That will also make you more attractive to future guys you meet when you are more open to the idea of dating.


The pool won't have dried up and besides, there's not much point in trying to force