Do I keep him for the sex?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2010
Do I keep him for the sex?
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 2:53am

I never saw myself ever wanting someone based on the physical.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 8:12am

I think him admitting feelings too soon is pushing you to feel like you have to have those same feelings too soon as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 9:25am

Within a short span of time, I've witnessed some shady behavior on the other guy's behalf and being that he is under my friend's roof carrying on in what used to be his daughter's room.

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:20am
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 5:08pm
Its okay to feel the way you feel because well, theyv are your feelings. If you can handle a fwb situation and then go for it. Just be clear and up front with him about it. The only problem I see is that fwb are more successful when there is no emotional attachment involved on both sides.

The guy at his house is a non issue really. Unless of course these two are bi or gay and are involved romantically.....lol.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 5:58pm

I talked to one of my friends and she said she doesn't think it would work, because he wants more and has put it out there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 6:19pm
Yeah, it doesnt sound like a healthy situation at all. I would bail too! I completely understand your reservations with this guy. If he can't stand up to his friend and set boundaries then he sounds like he has some growing up to do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 6:31pm

Have you heard the old adage, "If no decision is obvious, no decision is necessary"?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 6:53pm

I've already mental dueced out, but now I need to be an adult and tell him, even though I already know he's going to try to talk me back in.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 6:56pm

I've heard that adage before and thought it was odd.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2010
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 7:34pm
One question though...why don't you have him over to your place during this time? Is there a reason that is off limits? That might help you understand something about your own thinking about the relationship. Maybe you like having the wall up with this guy?

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