Do most men fear commitment?

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Do most men fear commitment?
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Mon, 05-22-2006 - 2:46pm
After the chase is over and the man knows that you care for him and that it's getting more serious, at this point do most men usually get scared of commitment and back off to do some thinking or think about breaking it off or at least slowing it down? If this is the case, why do you think that they do this? I'm wondering what both men and women on this board's viewpoint on this is.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:14am

Sorry, to hear your ladies struggles, I go through similar issues. I'm 29 BTW.

Thhe hard thing is I know there are women out there who want the same things as I do, it's just tough meeting them. I just know through past relationships, it's better to take your time, because I have been the one to dump and be dumped. We have to guard our hearts, and those to who we are dating. I wish I knew today, what I knew then, it's part of the learning process I guess. As far as the career thing goes. I can understand how some want to focus on that, I know me as a man, I would like to provide for a woman. It's in my nature to want her to be secure, but I also want her to feel safe around me and trust me. I don't want money to be an issue though. The most important thing to love one another. It's the little things that are the most important, laughing, cuddling, watching a movie together, talking. I guess the little things can be bigger than we think. Sometimes we get caught up in making money, being successful to define our worth, that we miss what is truly the gift.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:22am

"Sometimes we get caught up in making money, being successful to define our worth, that we miss what is truly the gift."

Gosh, you sound ever so dreamy. I wish there were more men around like you. Seriously, thank you for reminding me that there are guys that value these things. Gives me hope.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 11:53am
Thanks for your kind words. Your going to find someone, or they will find you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 8:32pm

From a man...
Career can never be the love of a man's life.
The most important thing in a man's life is: ***Sexual Satisfaction***.
Nothing else comes close.
Career may be important, but it is *always* second.
Unless we are talking about a dude who is really down on his luck and doesn't know how he will pay next month's rent. Then it is a struggle for basic survival. Other than that, it's all about sexual satisfaction, believe me.

So, as far as commitment is concerned, be it exclusivity or marriage, it all comes down to whether a man is convinced that he has sown enough of his proverbial wild oats. How much is "enough" is different from man to man, of course.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 8:40pm
For Wilt Chamberlain it was 10,000 (if he is to be believed :) ).
For some guys, just one is enough.

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