Do some people just have more love to Give than Others!!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Do some people just have more love to Give than Others!!
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Thu, 04-26-2012 - 9:24am

I was just pondering this lately and from things I read from this board and other boards and wondering if some people just have more love to give than others.. I am thinking that I have so much love to give and need it to be reciprocated and that is why I feel the need to want someone in my life..

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

At least we have all come to this conclusion & aren't beating ourselves up about being single like it's our "fault."

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Registered: 10-16-2006

And face it, we don't have a lot of control over whether we meet the right man, regardless of how many online dating sites we go on or how many blind dates,etc. It's not like school or work, where there is almost always a direct relationship

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Registered: 04-17-2008

Free, I understand how you feel.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

Sorry but I am not getting what you guys mean..

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I think everyone's idea of love is different, which is why it may seem to you that a person isn't "loving" when they are just showing it differently.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

Hi; yes what you say is true but I am not quite sure why you said that...
Do you mean that there arent enough people willing to give love and accept it and so there is a shortage of people finding each other and connecting?? That is probably very true these days..

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Registered: 08-13-2011
hey free

i think we are all have a lot of love to give, the 'amount' of love isn't so much the issue i think as the capability, knowledge, courage and willingness to give and show it.

some people are so afraid of pain and getting hurt and so vulnerable that they almost don't know how to reciprocate and show the love they have. they may never have experienced love themselves due to background/childhood etc. and so they probably express it in their own way which to them they believe is 'love' but to others it doesn't seem so.

only way of knowing for sure is good old open and honest communication i think

EO
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I am more extroverted, I think--if I am new to a group, I tend to be a little shy & quiet at first, but I do enjoy being around people more than being alone, although I don't have to be w/ people all the time.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

well then I am def. an extrovert and I am very outgoing so It makes sense that I dont want to be alone.. I do have friends and family and enjoy alone time but it is not enough.. I wont be feeling less if I really want a relationship..

I think alot on these boards are very introverted and that is why they dont suffer as much as I do.. I wonder why God doesnt provide someone for me because it actually hurts not being in a loving and caring relationship.. I hope and pray he hears me one day and answers my prayers..

I have many things that keep me busy and outside interests and all of that but it just doesnt fill the void for me.

I admire people who can stay alone and be happy with that.. I on the other hand will never be happy being 100percent alone. Heck I even go into coffee shops and talk to strangers and into grocery stores and talk to strangers.. Everywhere I go I am very social.

Just saying..

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As to enjoying alone time, I think a lot of it depends on whether you are an introvert or an exrovert, and you are born one way or the other. At least, we are all on a continuum in this regard. Introverts (which is not the same as shy or socially awkward) need more time alone to recharge their batteries. Extroverts feel energized around people and social interaction--introverts feel drained. And yup, I'm an introvert.

I would very much like to have a romantic relationship. I will feel cheated if it doesn't happen before I die. But I also think it's really important to have friends and other interests, whether you're in a romantic relationship or not. We should feel that we are enough, just as we are. There was a book written a long time ago entitled Why Do I Think I Am Nothing Without A Man? and I think that title says it all.

The other thing to keep in mind is that loneliness cannot be cured by just being around people--you need intimate connections. Twenty superficial "friendships" are not equal to even one close friendship.

I like my alone time, but I really enjoy getting out and doing things and seeing friends. Just because I enjoy alone time doesn't mean I want to be alone all of the time. I think people who seem to have more love to give are probably just less guarded and perhaps more generous and less critical of others.

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