Do some people just have more love to Give than Others!!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Do some people just have more love to Give than Others!!
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Thu, 04-26-2012 - 9:24am

I was just pondering this lately and from things I read from this board and other boards and wondering if some people just have more love to give than others.. I am thinking that I have so much love to give and need it to be reciprocated and that is why I feel the need to want someone in my life..

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Hi Free, I know where you are coming from. I am also one of those people that craves companionship and human interaction. I cannot be content being alone. I was going someone to recommend me a book. I suspect I might to co-dependent.

The other day, I was reading a post here by women who thinks they turn guys off because they are independent. Here I am thinking, I don't want a man. I need one. I am not independent and strong yet where are they?

Free, I think it is normal to want to be loved and give love.

If you are not looking for love, then I think there is something wrong.
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Hi Miss.

I do think I am somewhat of a codependent but after therapy and reading books about it and all of that good stuff I know that I have come to a more healthy place for it. So I doubt its about that anymore.

I also believe its not normal to be alone but that is just me.. and life is

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Registered: 01-02-2008

thank You Julia

Sometimes I think I am a crazy person because I want someone in my life because at times it appears desperate.. I dont think that is true because I have been alone and not afraid of that..

I have always been a candid and up front type of person and rarely hide the way I feel.. I have learned and experienced that one needs to live their truth and their reality.. I saw an Oprah show on that once where this doctor said live in your truth and that is what I do.. I am not afraid or ashamed or feel bad that I want to be in a relationship.. Like I told Miss I think its normal and life is meant to be shared.. I guess I feel its

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I actually think there are some people who prefer to be alone rather than w/ others.

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Music.. I also know people who are happy alone and that is why when I write something from my heart on here I get alot of feedback

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Registered: 05-14-1999

Well, I can't speak for others but I feel as if I have a lot of love to give - and I do.

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As to enjoying alone time, I think a lot of it depends on whether you are an introvert or an exrovert, and you are born one way or the other. At least, we are all on a continuum in this regard. Introverts (which is not the same as shy or socially awkward) need more time alone to recharge their batteries. Extroverts feel energized around people and social interaction--introverts feel drained. And yup, I'm an introvert.

I would very much like to have a romantic relationship. I will feel cheated if it doesn't happen before I die. But I also think it's really important to have friends and other interests, whether you're in a romantic relationship or not. We should feel that we are enough, just as we are. There was a book written a long time ago entitled Why Do I Think I Am Nothing Without A Man? and I think that title says it all.

The other thing to keep in mind is that loneliness cannot be cured by just being around people--you need intimate connections. Twenty superficial "friendships" are not equal to even one close friendship.

I like my alone time, but I really enjoy getting out and doing things and seeing friends. Just because I enjoy alone time doesn't mean I want to be alone all of the time. I think people who seem to have more love to give are probably just less guarded and perhaps more generous and less critical of others.

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well then I am def. an extrovert and I am very outgoing so It makes sense that I dont want to be alone.. I do have friends and family and enjoy alone time but it is not enough.. I wont be feeling less if I really want a relationship..

I think alot on these boards are very introverted and that is why they dont suffer as much as I do.. I wonder why God doesnt provide someone for me because it actually hurts not being in a loving and caring relationship.. I hope and pray he hears me one day and answers my prayers..

I have many things that keep me busy and outside interests and all of that but it just doesnt fill the void for me.

I admire people who can stay alone and be happy with that.. I on the other hand will never be happy being 100percent alone. Heck I even go into coffee shops and talk to strangers and into grocery stores and talk to strangers.. Everywhere I go I am very social.

Just saying..

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I am more extroverted, I think--if I am new to a group, I tend to be a little shy & quiet at first, but I do enjoy being around people more than being alone, although I don't have to be w/ people all the time.

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