Do we become less superficial as we age?

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Do we become less superficial as we age?
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 7:29pm

I was talking with a male coworker who told me his theory that all a guy in his 30s needs to do to attract a woman is to be nice and funny.

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 8:13pm

Honestly, I've never been into really hot guys or overly concerned with the way a guy looks.

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 8:23pm

For each person, superficial is different. For me it would be to go after someone just for looks. Which is not the case. I am only into men who meet my definition of hot. I am not attracted to men who are by my definition ugly. They have no chance with me. Women are just as visual as men. Sometimes women overlook a mans appearance if he has a lot of money(Donald trump, Hugh Hefner). I would not go out with an ugly older man if they paid me too! Life is too short to settle for someone who you are not sexually attracted to.

Chelle-

Amour-Propre

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 8:23pm

Um, I think so.


When we are young we have few responsibilities and our life ahead of seems full of promise.

Soliel
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 9:05pm

It seems like you figured things out before I did.

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 9:07pm
I agree with what you wrote, but did you really have to remind me that we're closer to death! ;)
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 9:19pm

Through experience or other ways, some probably learn that looks mean nothing, but then they still think money matters, or being a certain race matters, or having a certain level of education matters. So yes, people may become less superficial, but they still are in some ways.

As for a great personality, I've been suckered in by it and I've realised, in the last year or so, that there are people in the world who draw people in because of their great personalities, but they lack character and they cannot be trusted. That's what I'm looking at now. It's great to be funny and charming, but if they can't back it up with character, I'm not interested.

A~

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 9:23pm
Probably. Right now I feel like...I'm not concerned with what other people think, per se, as long as I'm attracted to a guy. I'm not usually attracted to stereotypically "hot" men, for the most part. However, I'm no saint, because at this point (as in RIGHT now, I wouldn't have said this six months or a year ago), I'm much more into finding a cute guy than anything else, BUT I'm also not really looking for a relationship....and I'm still young and superficial, apparently. :)
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 9:37pm

I think part of "figuring it out" for me has been that I've never felt all that attractive, yet I know I am a great person and have a good personality, so I want to see the same in others.

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:26pm
Don't know if we all become less superficial with age (look no further than zip codes starting with 90), but when we are younger(late teens and gradually declining through the twenties) we are too primally driven to find the best physical characteristics, everything else be damned. Chicks looking for hot guys. Guys looking for hot chicks. Sperm owners looking for the best egg to fuse their sperms to, egg owners looking for the best sperms to fuse to their eggs, and ironically taking every precaution to make sure that never actually happens. Past peak reproductive age (late teens/early twenties) many of us slowly become more forgiving, especially those who have already had kids
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 11:44pm
>>and I'm still young and superficial, apparently. :)

No no no..! Nothing superficial in that at all. You are going exactly according to plan (your genetic plan, that is). Find yourself a cute 6'4" drop dead gorgeous hunk (like out of an Abr & Fch ad), mate with him, have a 'litter' of babies.... and you are all set. :)

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