Do we Sabatogue Ourselves?

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Do we Sabatogue Ourselves?
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Sun, 07-21-2013 - 6:32pm

I was thinking about what Music said on a post a few days ago about the fact that she kinda knew a few men already and at some point most of us on here have come across some single men and women in our years of being single..

Someone I knew from H.S. who happens to be a man (married) said to me I bet you have run into a few men and not even noticed they were looking at you or they could have been a potential mate.. you probably just past them by.. I had to think about that and thought hey that could be true.. I have run into and met many men in the past few years but I always thought none were for me romantically.. Like we say the ones who liked me I didnt like them or the ones I liked didnt like me but maybe that is wrong thinking ...

Lets face it we are all aging and complaining there are no eligible men or women but there has to be and maybe we are just passing them up. Lets take this new guy I  just met.. He isnt so bad and not bad looking and we have been talking on the phone here and there. I am going to see him wed. night at a meet up group he signed up for . I signed up first and he said he saw me on the list and signed up cause i was going.. Now he does live about an 50 minutes away but hey maybe he could be a potential ? I think maybe looking at men or women as potentials seems to be alot better than complaining there are no men or women for us..... I mean if you do go somewhere anywhere you are bound to meet someone along the way.. So he or she is not perfect but there is potential there somewhere.. We are not perfect so why do we expect others to be..I am not talking about liking a hot mess or anything but noticing more and keeping the eyes peeled more.. Does this make sense?

Maybe its time to open our eyes and look around at what is out there when we go grocery shopping or walking or the park or whatever.. I mean there is a whole huge world out there and we must be missing something....My cousin met her husband at the gas station.. He was pumping gas and they started talking and then dating and then got married. This is an example and not telling anyone to marry a gas station guy.... But you guys know what I mean and getting at???

Well just some thoughts for the day....

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Mon, 08-19-2013 - 2:04am

Well, this is a response to all of you really but I relate to what you said about 'been there done that'. Yep, I've done all of the above.

I believe in luck too but luck may have to do with your vibration or whatever subsconscious force that's at work in you. The reason I believe in luck is b/c I have a gf who, by all appearances, has less to offer than me but she's always been able to attract pretty decent men. A couple of things I notice that she may have an big edge over me is she is outgoing and goes out by herself a lot more than me. BUT, she's also met a man in church, at a grocery store, online, at an outdoors concert, at an art gallary. Avenues that would be too fleeting to make any real connection. Other than the online dating, the majority of the men she meets are by chance. She's  met some crummy ones as well but she quickly weeded them out. But my point is I've never met a man this way.

I'm shy. I'm picky. I'm depressed and relating to that is probably some destructive subconscious force but how many times have you heard or know of someone as messed up as can meet finding good men? More than me that's for sure. 

 

 

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