do you ever just feel jealous...
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| Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:04am |
of your friends for their dating life?
I have this one friend who is nothing special. She's attractive, always looks nice, but there's just nothing really standouty about her. For whatever reason she is always able to pull the best guys. Or at least on the surface they are good catches. THey always are good looking, dress well, have good educations, good jobs, make good money. I dont look/act any less than her and i feel like all i get lately are the biggest LOSERS! The last two guys that hit on me were either unemployed or didnt go to college. I dont necessarily care about the college part, but I dont get why she gets hit on by the dr's or guys who are making big bucks.
I guess it's frustrating because her whole life she seems to have gotten those types of guys. Now she is dating a dr who is still married granted (seperated) but it just seems SO typical. IT's like oh, of course she's dating a dr. I'm sure he'll get divorced in no time and she'll go off and have a fabulous life with him. Her life has been pretty easy. She seemed to get into the great schools even thogh she never seemed to be particlarly smart. She's also the type who is very judgemental and always talks sh*t about people behind their backs then smiles in their face
I guess i am having an off day but for ONCE i would love to see her dating some loser who doesnt have a pot to piss in. There i said.

Hello and welcome to the board.
"On the surface" these seem to be great guys. Just because a guy's a doctor does not mean he's an amazing catch -- many of them work insane schedules, are so wrapped up in their work that they don't have time for family, etc. If he's still in his residency, he also doesn't make a lot of money. Plus, this guy is going through a divorce. Doesn't sound like the best catch to me.
yes - I do get jealous of my friends from time to time. My friends are all happily married, and it's frustrating sometimes that I'm not as well.
Just remember, the grass may seem greener on the other side -- but look closely, is it because it's spray painted? Things are not always what they seem.
I have found in my own life that I am much, much happier when I stop comparing myself to others and only compete with myself. For example, if the last guy I went out with was a loser (and he was), then I challenge myself to stop accepting dates with losers. :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I will echo the thoughts from the other posters. I strongly suspect she is not living the fantasy life you think she is living. If she truly had all the things you seem to want, she would actually be married and have the happy family. She doesn't!!! She is dating guys that are not even divorced. These guys are not such great catches. If all she or you want is a fat bank account you can find that. Character and integrity may be harder to find - just read the posts on this web site.
I do wonder why you are friends with this woman. It seems like you two don't have the healthiest relationship. Jealousy, gossip, envy, and dishonesty seem to be prevalent in your friendship. Perahps you should reconsider having her in your life. She doesn't seem to be a great person to have close to you, and she doesn't bring out the best of humanity in you.
Ya know it's funny but if she wants to go out with someone that has that kind of baggage, good luck. But yeah I can see where someone would be jealous. Think about it this way, would you rather be in a situation where someone that you personally could walk away from. Or would you rather be in a situation where it could be a lot worse.
Granted everyone has something that someone else is jealous of, and they may not know it. Someone is always going to be smarter than you, prettier than you, taller, skinner, and get better men than you. A lot of times what's on the surface can be really ugly underneath so just remember that.
When I'm in that position where I want to be "in the spotlight", and I want something that someone else has I look at it like this. For example, I have a really good career, and I make good money...better than most people my age, at the end of the year I'll have a house of my own, I have a great family, and my life is pretty much stable at this point. My ex was always jealous of the fact that I made more than him, which partially insipired him to get his real estate license, because he needed to get out of his "job", and start to make more money. I'm jealous of him because of the fact that he's got A LOT of friends, something of which I never had. But he buys all these toys, spends money he doesn't have, and hangs out with his "friends" that for most of them aren't really doing anything with there lives or going anywhere. I always wanted to go where he was going, to bars, clubs, parties, get drunk, etc, and everything than an 18 or 21 year old would do. Now being that he's 25, he still does these things. Which to me, is not my cup of tea, and is something I have little patience for. And I think to myself, hey at least I'm not half broke, hanging out with drunk loosers, or feeling the need to go out every weekend.
So I would say this, be thankful for what you have, don't let any of those looser guys latch on to you just because you want someone to be with or pay attention to. And just be yourself, cause at least your not like her running her mouth behind peoples backs.
Loosers attract loosers, and deseparate people attract deseparate people. Be yourself and you'll find the right person for you.