Do you ever just get bored waiting?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Do you ever just get bored waiting?
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Wed, 01-11-2006 - 11:09pm

Okay...you flirt and flirt, you get flirted with...it's been awhile, you know he's interested....and you wait....and you wait...and you wait.


At what point do you just give up on a guy actually making a move when you've made it clear you're interested?


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Registered: 01-04-2006
Wed, 01-11-2006 - 11:12pm
at the point where you are waiting.He is not asking you out.I think that is when you know.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 8:28am

Call it jaded but I don't think I ever get my hopes up in the first place anymore. I assume the opposite until I hear otherwise.

Do you have a particular example or just wondering?

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 9:48am
I agree with both of you.
I've found myself in those situations more times than I care to admit and when I see he's not going to ask me out, I get bored and move on. Chances are he wasn't as interested as I would have liked him to be in the first place and then I'm usually lucky or unlucky enough, however you want to look at it, to spot him somewhere with his girlfriend which answers all my questions and helps me move on faster.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 9:53am

I'm kind of in that situation right now...though it hasn't been all that long, and I'm not entirely sure he's interested (but I think he is) and he definitely knows I'm interested.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 11:16am
That book, "He's just not that into you" should be the woman's bible.
I find myself going back to read excerpts in that one.
Another particular good book is "What smart women know". This book is very good. I was on the bus reading it and someone happened to be reaing over my shoulder and said, "Ms. Where can I find that book? I'm sorry I was reading over your shoulder but it looks really good".
It helped me out as well.
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Registered: 12-13-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 2:09pm
I guess I'm a freak cause I don't wait around on a guy... if I'm interested they know it and if they aren't quick enough for me - i'll make a move and have my answer. I have super nonexistant patience! :-S
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Registered: 05-18-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 5:57pm
Good things do not come to those who wait in the dating game. Maybe you should make the first move instead of waiting on him. It's a whole new world out there...
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Registered: 02-05-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 5:59pm
3 strikes and your out. its a ballgame right? hes got the balls we have the bat we swing if we miss we walk.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 7:20pm

Not exactly...it's just a trend I notice with myself that I get bored really quickly, but then I read these posts from women who have been "talking to" or hanging out with a guy for months and she's still holding on.

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 11:42pm
i am very impatient too. i get bored pretty easily, i hate it! like right now, i really really like this guy. we talk pretty much every day, but we never see eachother. both of us are so busy that it just never works out. im working weekends lately and he works late at night. our times just dont match up. ive been in these time crunch situations before, and i tend to just lose interest. i really hope i can stick through this one!

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