Do You Like Going Solo?
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Do You Like Going Solo?
| Sat, 06-23-2007 - 3:23pm |
How do you feel about not being in a serious relationship? Does it bother you if you don't have a date? Can you enjoy your life without having a man in your life?

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Why yes I can enjoy life with out a man in my life . . .lol . . but I am a man . . lol . .
Jokes aside . . yes and no . . for a while . . . human nature , , alone sucks. Want a deper answer . . sure. . ask . . .but in short . . men and women share this one.
Alone kind of sucks.
I beg to differ...I never thought I'd say this, but I'm really very content being single. And I'm not alone. I have friends and family that I absolutely adore and vice versa.
Loneliness happens, yes. But there's so much more to life than having a man in it...my life is interesting/good enough as it is. :) If I happen to meet a man I like, that only enriches what I already have.
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I absolutely agree. I did hint a “deeper” answer was attached to the simple one I offered. (-: First I don’t believe you can even enter into a healthy relationship unless you are totally content with the one we have with ourselves. And you said it, you are not alone. You have those deep connections with others. It is not all about a “man” or in my case a “woman”. (-: There are just some things attached to “that” relationship that can’t be offered in the family. (-:
What I do believe is we as human beings, as a species if you will are very social creatures. We don’t like being alone. And at some point for most some kind of relationship or partner ship forms out of that need. That is not certain or true for everyone. And it certainly does not mean we can’t be single and happy. Per your post, if you did not have close friends and family? For a lot of reasons people find them selves isolated at times. What you really said is you are fortunate enough to have a life rich with relationships. (-: That is a very good thing.
Great replies everyone, and thank you! I LOVE being on my own...and the only time in my 62 yrs of living that I have felt alone is when I was married to a man who was there, but not there - - and you know what I mean. Being "lonely" while being with someone is the worst kind of lonely there is.
I have friends and family, and do not have to have a "man" in my life to be considered "social".
By solo, I meant not being in a serious relationship with someone. We can casually date or "hang out" with a friend of the same, or opposite sex and yet still be on our own as far as our private life.
I too am the most content that I have ever been in my life. I enjoy the type of work I do, enjoy time with my friends/family, and also enjoy being by myself.
I love the emotional and physical freedom of being able to come and go whenever I please (obviously away from work, lol).
I never say never, and IF I met the "right" person I might consider getting into another relationship. But I am extremely picky. I would never be with someone just for the sake of appearing that I could get a man...or be with someone just because others thought I should.
My motto is: What's right, is what's right for each of us. And we must each live our lives that is best suited for each of us.
Callie
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I so agree.
No, I don't like being single.
There's been some really good replies on this subject and I agree with all them.
First, the post about it's really lonely to live with someone who doesn't pay attention to you is so true! That was my marriage, which is why I'm now divorced. After I got divorced I realized just how lonely I was being married to a man who wouldn't give me the time of day. So, getting divorced and being truly alone again was not a big shock to my system.
But, I also agree with the posts that say having a partner is better in many ways. But of course the key is having a healthy relationship. I miss having someone to do simple things with like grocery shopping, stopping to eat ice cream somewhere, seeing a movie, etc. One guy I dated recently asked me if I wanted to go to the grocery store with him and for me, it was such a nice feeling after not being grocery shopping with anyone in so long to do that with him. That's just me. I miss the simple things in life that you can do with a partner.
Michelle
'.Can you enjoy your life without having a man in your life?'
I can't respond for every woman on the planet but for me personally, I'm afraid not, no way. I never could enjoy life without a (great) man in my life, and knew very well that I've always been one of those people who are not programmed to be single. I've been with my bf for 3 years and 3 months now and have never been happier in my entire life.
Lecture you? IMHO that would be extremely inappropriate and downright mean! As I wrote, "What's right, is what's right for each of us"...and that means just that - we are all to live the life that is right for us.
I can relate to what you are saying, because people have tried to lecture me for just the opposite reason. Why some people feel they need, or have the right to lecture anyone is beyond me.
These boards are not to judge or criticize anyone. These boards are here for us to be able to express our feelings and to feel comfortable in oing so.
As far as my thoughts about being in a relationship: No two people are perfect; but what is important is that they are perfect for each other. That being said, IF I meet the man who is perfect for me, and vice versa, then I would not hesitate to be with him. And again, I never say never.
For now, since I am going solo, I am very blessed that I am so content, instead of wasting my time having a pity party about it all. And, I'm very proud of myself that I am able to take care of so many things by myself.
I am very sorry that anyone would lecture or criticize you....those are not friends, and those are the people who are not productive in your life.
You be you...and you continue to live the life that is meant for you my friend.
Callie
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