Do You Like Going Solo?
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Do You Like Going Solo?
| Sat, 06-23-2007 - 3:23pm |
How do you feel about not being in a serious relationship? Does it bother you if you don't have a date? Can you enjoy your life without having a man in your life?

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I agree.
Although, my best friend is now dating someone who is 40 (she's 30- and settling at the moment, IMO) who is on her like stink on, well, you know.
After 3 years of looking, dating and putting myself out here and after 8 years of a pretty happy relationship, I can honestly say it makes me sad to not have a wonderful, romantic relationship in my life. I miss it like crazy and hope I'll get into another one before hit my deathbed.
It does bother me a bit to not have dates on weekends or special events but I combat that by staying busy with my friends. It gets hard because I feel I've gotten even more dependent on my friends for social things to combat loneliness.
I can and do enjoy life without a man. But I also know exactly what great things I'm missing. And that is hard to ignore.
>>She wouldn't have to sit around and brood for months and years.<<
Yeesh. Then is she really growing as a person? I believe that pain and grieving are a necessary part of life - if you just brush over it or look for ways to numb it, you either don't grow as a person or it will come back to haunt you later.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I'm happy for you that you have been able to fill your life with friends, and I hope that you do meet and form a loving and healthy relationship with the man who is right for you.
There are pros and cons to being with someone and with going it solo. As I always say, "What's right, is what's right for each of us".
Many happy thoughts and blessings to you!
Callie
I enjoy the freedom of not being taunted of "why haven't you called or visit me today" crap. There is so much space to breath oxygen and go outside and help my mother plant the spring tulips.
Sometimes, the only harsh thing is going to friends weddings or dinner dates without a partner to part take in, but I don't mind the pleasure of getting to scope the outdoors to eye ball another potential bachelor without kids or a ring on their left hand.
Do I like going Solow... After three years after a almost two year on and off poor break-up... my answer is Hell yes! :)
-eReader_K2007
At first it doesn't bother you so much. but now that it's summertime, it does seem to bug me a bit more now. School is out and its time for vacations and relaxation so sometimes you wish you had that special someone in your life to spend it with even if its once a month. Sometime I do feel a bit lonely but at the same time, im trying to find a person who I know will be around for awhile. I want a long term relationship. I guess it all depends on how you look at a relationship to be.
Amen! Isn't it wonderful not to have to answer to someone? I love it too! Not all people expect you to be a prisoner while in a relationship, but for those who do...I stay clear of! The best relationships are those where both parties are secure and comfortable with themselves, are not possessive, are not jealous, and have no prior hurts they need to take out on other people (gee, is there anyone like that out there? lol).
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