Do you maintain a clean break?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Do you maintain a clean break?
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Wed, 04-25-2012 - 8:19am

After my ex dumped me about 5 months ago. We stay in contact periodically.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 5:56pm

When I am over him, I can be his friend. He is a gamood guy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 10:18am

As Marina said with her exes, I've kept in contact with all my ex girlfriends, some more than others. They're good people, it would be a shame to lose them completely. But for me,

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 7:04pm
Yeah...definitely keep the gifts. I've never really had a guy give me anything spectacular, but a gift is a gift. Once many years ago, a boyfriend broke up with me right before Christmas. I had already gotten him something and put quite a lot of thought into it so I left it on his porch.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2005
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 5:05pm

I never maintained a total NC. We would be somewhat in touch, until gradually we (or I) lost interest.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 1:11pm
I deleted his phone contact and all his emails yesterday. There is no way I can contact him now except through email.

I know I won't contact him anymore. Breakup is like death. It is permanent. My biggest mistake was hoping we could get back together.

He is not buy me anything expensive or jewellery. Just 2 pairs of pants and I also got the same for him.

Anyways if I return worn pants, I would look petty.
I don't want to ever see him again. I accepted the truth yesterday and I am moving forward and never looking back again.

If someone walks to walk away from my life, I let him walk.

He still insists on being friends with me. Of course he does, I do alot of things for him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 11:04am

I sure as heck do not give back the good jewelry!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 8:07am

oh; Marina made a good point.. I think they call that closure.. By deleting email address, phone and giving his things back and doing all not to remind yourself of him and then maybe writing him a letter but dont send it..

You sound like you need some closure on this and time to grieve.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 9:03pm

We did not buy each other a lot of stuff. The things I gave him during the relationship he kept and the things he gave me I still keep.

We only dated for 5-6 months. We usually go out to eat and go on day trips or hang out at his apartment.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 8:49pm

OK, I have a question: do you keep stuff they gave you or that you bought together?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 3:32pm
I will NEVER keep in touch with an ex once a relationship is over.

If he is not WITH me, he cannot be my friend.

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