Do you prefer men to think you are:-

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Do you prefer men to think you are:-
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 10:12am

Do you prefer men to think you are:-



  • Intelligent
  • Sexy


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Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 8:44pm

Does a person have to be a member of Mensa to be intelligent?

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:25pm
Ok this question is to all. What compliments do you get most commonly get when you are dating?
I always get a few comments from men in general. They think I'm cute or pretty, smart and nice. Those are the comments I get most when men are dating me. I rarely get the sexy comment so although I would love men to point out that I'm intelligent, I would love to get a comment that I'm sexy because I don't usually get them and when I fish for that comment from boyfriends they say "of course you are always sexy and you always look good". But I dont' get the sexy compliment I get the "aww you are so cute compliment". Kind of bugs me sometimes even though I know they mean well by that comment.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:36pm

I get cute a lot and the occasionally pretty, but that's about it.

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 7:53am
LOL... yea, I know when a date says in the first 5 minutes of conversation "Wow... you're really smart." there is not going to be a second date!!!
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 7:58am

Interesting qualifier you are using Hal... member of mensa or other iq org... Personally, I don't need to be a part of an organization to validate my intelligence.

And I don't agree that those kinds of measuring tools are the only way to measure intelligence. To me, intelligence is real life application of knowledge. If a guy has a mensa membership, but only talks over my head, then is he really so intelligent? But if a guy can make intelligent-based decisions and communicate those decisions in a meaningful way, he is intelligent enough to have secured a second date.

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 8:01am
I agree. I have never aspired to be cute.
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Registered: 01-03-2006
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 11:52am

"To me, intelligence is real life application of knowledge.'

That is a very wise saying withrespect, wow I love that. To me intelligence has nothing to do with ACT scores and how well someone remembers, history facts, theroies, formulas, etc. Adding to withrespect it's also about seeking the truth. There are doctors out there that have PH.D's, they learned things from school that aren't true, but because they have a degree, that makes them right. Sometimes being intelligent means following your heart, and admitting when were wrong. I think little kids are intelligent, I love their attitude, for the most part they are honest and their hearts are pure.

All is not always as it seems.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:08pm
I suppose you have just proved my point. People who claim to be intelligent back it up with their own definitions of intelligence. The best definition of intelligence I know is: "The ability to do the correct and appropriate thing in a new and unexpected situation". I think standardised intelligence tests are a very good benchmark for this but I am probably biased because I am a member of Mensa. It makes no difference whether or not I put that in my online profile though!?
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Registered: 08-13-2004
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:37pm
Emotional intelligence and being a good person are much more important in a relationship than intelligence--many highly intelligent people do not connect with other people at all.
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 1:54pm

I could also say emotional intelligence and being a good person are much more important in a relationship than being tall. But how many women want a tall man?

>many highly intelligent people do not
>connect with other people at all.

This isn't completely true. Highly intelligent people don't connect well with people of average intelligence. This is the reason why High IQ societies are formed and also why it bothers me when women say they want an "intelligent" man. Intelligence isn't arbitrary.

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