Do you prefer men to think you are:-

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Do you prefer men to think you are:-
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 10:12am

Do you prefer men to think you are:-



  • Intelligent
  • Sexy


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Registered: 08-13-2004
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:49pm
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Edited 7/2/2006 1:02 am ET by pimbiroo
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:51pm

>What is the real difference here? Their "intelligence" or
>the obvious differences in status and education??

Neither, it is the test you used. A well designed IQ tests should measure a person’s ability to understand ideas and not the quantity of their knowledge. This is why Culture Fair intelligence tests were developed.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:02pm
Thanks for that revelation. Being a good person is important. Got it.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:13pm

Hal,

I have never thought of IQ as an important factor in the men I've dated. I've never thought to myself...hmm, I wonder if he has high IQ or gee he has a high IQ. In fact, I dont think of IQ at all for anybody unless I'm doing psychological testing or learning about IQ and intelligences in school. I dont measure intelligence based on a test score or a host of test scores. I have no clue what my current boyfriend's IQ score is though I'm quite certain, *at times*, that he is more "intelligent" than me. I think you can be intelligent on many different levels and some of the most intelligent people are still dumb as fence posts at times. Intelligence is book smarts, street smarts, people smarts, logic, critical and rational thought processes, critical self-awareness and common sense.

With that said, I can understand why you find IQ to be important and I do understand the points you are trying to make.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:27pm

Ruby,

IQ isn't that important to me, honestly. I don't test women before I date them to find out their IQ, usually their interests and conversation "betrays" it so to speak. I agree with many of your points as well. To be honest, very few people in the real world know I am a member, just a few close family members. I don't have a plaque on my wall. It was something I was compelled to do and in a sense I am proud of it. I jokingly say that I'm twice as smart as a mensan because I scored better than the top 1% on the test. I also say that if I can become a member of mensa, any idiot can!

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:30pm

Hal,

I think being a member of Mensa is a great accomplishment and I would be proud of it too.

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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:43pm

Actually, instead they are left in a class too big for them with a teacher who can't provide the one-on-one they need to make progress.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 8:57am

***It may be necessary to use a word other than intelligent when describing desirable characteristics.***

I agree, WR. In the other thread that discusses this, I mentioned that my online profile further clarifies what I need in the brains department. Being intelligent is a good place to start.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 9:06am

Ruby,

I am going to disagree with this statement: I think being a member of Mensa is a great accomplishment.

Having a high IQ score is not an accomplishment. Which is part of the reason it does not impress me. Completing your PhD at the age of 22 from Columbia University is an accomplishment (a friend's - certainly not mine). Writing a book is an accomplishment. Discovering a new planet is an accomplishment. Taking a test and scoring well because of your supposed innate ability is not an accomplishment.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 2:52pm

Jules,

I thought it best to reply to you in my own thread rather than hijack one. Sorry cj311.

>You said many things, Hal. Which one did my response reinforce?

This one:I would have thought that women who say they valued intelligence would praise a person with a High-IQ but instead they appear to feel contempt for them and criticise the method of testing.

I have been a member of mensa for over 5 years and I am no longer interested in entering a prolonged discussion about the merits of IQ tests. There are enough websites dedicated to the issue already.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IQ
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IQ_test_controversy
http://www.personalityresearch.org/intelligence.html

As far as your definition of "accomplishments" is concerned, my personal opinion is that the lowest common denominator is a High IQ.

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