Do you prefer men to think you are:-

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Do you prefer men to think you are:-
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 10:12am

Do you prefer men to think you are:-



  • Intelligent
  • Sexy


You will be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 3:04pm

But I don't have contempt for someone who has a high IQ. I never said that and I don't feel that way. I'm not sure where you got that from.

I agree that the entire notion of IQ tests has been sufficiently argued elsewhere. That being the case, I don't subscribe to the idea that a person must score well on those tests to be intelligent. It seems to be your opinion that they are the only standard measure of intelligence and, therefore, a worthy marker to use. Since I don't agree with that premise, it would be very difficult for me to agree with you subsequently.

You seem to feel that there can be no objective evidence of intelligence without an IQ score and I disagree. As I have said several times, a person's IQ (or intelligence) is not much in and of itself. No matter how you choose to quantify it.

I would also bet that there are inventions that came from people who did not have a stellar IQ.

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Registered: 07-03-2005
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 3:22pm

I seriously can't believe I read this whole thread (and I thought *I* was deep! :p )... okay I'm lying I skimmed alot of the replies! :p

Personally - I do NOT believe IQ and intelligence can or should be used interchangeably. IQ evokes an image (for me) of someone who retains facts, figures and information and can recall them readily on a trivia show. Intelligence (this the first definition in Webster): 1 a (1) : the ability to learn or understand or to deal with new or trying situations : REASON; ---- so, in keeping with "People who claim to be intelligent back it up with their own definitions of intelligence." I feel, an intelligent person can operate and engage with the rest of the human population and life in general, despite their heightened "intelligence" and infact because of their intelligence they can "reason" with life and those they come in contact with BETTER than those with high IQ or even us average simpletons.

Personally, there's a small chance I have a high IQ but honestly (aside from the little IQ tests I take online for fun) I don't care because it's just not that important to me... being intelligent is more important to me - in me and in a life mate.

But more important than all this, I've never seen someone so consumed with their IQ and/or their height before. Why not find acceptance with self instead of trying to compensate!?




Edited 6/19/2006 3:31 pm ET by feelingratherlost
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 3:43pm

>That being the case, I don't subscribe to the idea
>that a person must score well on those tests to be intelligent.

I am more or less arguing the reverse. A person that does score well on a standardized IQ test is also likely to be the kind of person who will write a book, discover a planet or gain a PhD. Or better still, a person that has written a book, discovered a planet or attained a PhD will probably score well on a standardized IQ test.

>I would also bet that there are inventions that came
>from people who did not have a stellar IQ.

I disagree because IQ tests measure a person’s ability to understand ideas, logic and reasoning skills and problem solving ability. The traits you would expect an inventor to possess in above average levels.

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Registered: 06-24-2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 2:28pm
I would prefer men to think i'm intelligent, some men find that sexy in itself! But I would hate for a guy to say to his friends 'she's well sexy - too bad she's as dim as a candle on the moon' i'd rather him say 'she's not very sexy -but atleast you can have an intelligent conversation with her'
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Registered: 11-17-2004
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 10:18pm
Where's the "both" option?
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Registered: 07-04-2006
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 10:28am

Here's the thing of it...

I've been called intelligent by many, many men. I've been called smart, funny, witty, interesting, and all sorts of other non-sexy adjectives.

And none of these men have had any interest in dating me. I've been the smart girl for as long as I can remember. I'm over it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2006
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 12:20pm
i would rather be considered smart any day over sexy. That way men will actually have a conversation with you about things that really count in life!!!
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Registered: 05-12-2006
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 1:24pm
don't you think that there are men out there that find smart women sexy, so by being smart you are sexy so women can be both!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-26-2004
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 11:31am
Personally, I'd like a man to first think that I am intelligent, and I downplay the sexy part - only to reveal it later on an important date, surprising the guy that, yes, I am both.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 11:40am
Well, since intelligence IS sexy, I voted for intelligent.


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