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Do you see it happening?
| Tue, 05-15-2007 - 11:09pm |
I kinda realized today....I can't actually picture "it" happening for me.
| Tue, 05-15-2007 - 11:09pm |
I kinda realized today....I can't actually picture "it" happening for me.
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Years ago I received this at some meeting I went to...yep I am a packrat. When I start overthinking about my life, I pull this out and read it.
THE STATION
By Robert J. Hastings
Tucked away in our subconscious is an idyllic VISion. We see ourselves on a long trip that spans the continent. We are traveling on a train. Out the windows we drink the passing scene of cars on nearby highways, of children waving at a crossing, of cattle grazing on a distant hillside, of smoke pouring from a power plant, of row upon row of corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, of mountains and rolling hillsides, of city skylines and village halls.
But uppermost in our minds is the final destination. Bands will be playing and flags waving. Once we get there our dreams will come true, and the pieces of our lives will fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. How restlessly we pace the aisles, damning the minutes for loitering---waiting, waiting, waiting for the station.
"When we reach the station, that will be it!" we cry.
"When l'm 18."
"When I buy a new 450SL Mercedes Benz!"
"When I have paid off the mortgage"
"When I get a promotion."
"When I reach the age of retirement, I shall live happily ever after!"
Sooner or later we must realize there is no station, no one place to arrive at once and for all. The true joy of life is the trip. The station is only a dream. It constantly outdistances us.
"Relish the moment" is a good motto, especially when coupled with Psalm 118:24: "This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad!" It isn't the burdens of today that drive men mad. It is the regrets over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow. Regret and fear are twin thieves who rob us of today.
So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, climb more mountains, eat more ice cream, go barefoot more often, swim more rivers, watch more sunsets, laugh more, cry less. Life must be lived as we go along. The station will come soon enough.
If I implied that I'm "waiting around" for a man, I surely didn't mean to.
That's the thing, though, sometimes when I've been single, I've been able to "see" it.
Hehehe....for a while (after a disastrous experiment with hair dye) I never imagined me with blonde hair, either....and now I have blonde hair.
I feel you on the unfair thing! I have always tried to start relationships off on a healthy note by not dating when I or the guy was separated and not quite divorced, not dating men from work, not having sex too soon etc. However, I have friends who have jumped right back into a new relationship before the divorce was final form the first one and then got married again pretty soon after. I have friends that had sex on the first date and the relationship lasted and they eventually got married to the guy. And guess who is still single?!? UHHH!
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I've been thinking about this post since I read it a few days ago. I'm going to be 29 next month and yes, while that is young to most people, I just see it as another year gone that I have spent wishing for it to happen. I want to believe that it will, I try to believe that it will, but sometimes I feel like the more I wish for it and the more I picture it, the more I may just be fooling myself. I am not going back to online dating, I just don't have the energy for that, I'm not going to meet anyone at work since I work alone, my friends, well they just don't have anyone to fix me up with, and when I go out (i.e., grocery shopping, the gym, etc.) I don't go out with the intention of meeting someone, I go there to get my stuff done. I try to put on a smile when I go out and make myself look "available" (whatever that means) but I don't get approached. One of my friends told me a while ago that I am unapproachable, and sometimes I put off this vibe that I'm unavailable, but I don't see that I do that, but I'm not going to go after a guy either. I feel like I am always the one to pursue someone, and quite frankly, I'm tired of it.
So what does that mean? I guess I just go about my business, live my life, and still in the back of my mind, hope and wish and picture it happening. I just don't know...
>>If I implied that I'm "waiting around" for a man, I surely didn't mean to. Those of you who know me know that's not who I am.<<
I was thinking the same thing as I read some of the responses. I think it's sort of funny how quick we fellow singles can be to tell each other to "think positive" "live your own life" "life is complete with or without a man" - regardless of the topic originally posted. I think most of us who post here do live our lives and are not just waiting around for a man to start living.
I don't think your original post implied you were waiting around for a man at all - you were just having one of those "hmm?" moments.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
"Want to know what I think isn't fair? I have a friend who never really seemed to care one way or the other if she ever met "Mr. Right" and got married. She never had a shortage of men who were interested in her, and she wasn't even the prettiest girl in the group - she was just cute, and very low-maintenance, with a very fun, friendly personality. And she got married when she was 25. That's just so unfair! Why do people who don't seem to care one way or the other get married, and those of us who have had visions of a lacy white wedding dress since we saw a bride for the first time may not ever get married? Unfairsies!!! LOL"
I totally agree. It seems as if murphy's law is always in affect. What you don't really care about comes to you and what you really want evades you. Life is totally unfair sometimes.
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