do you think I should call?

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Registered: 10-27-2003
do you think I should call?
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Wed, 10-26-2005 - 3:26pm
So I had a first date with a guy I met at a clam bake last weekend. He took me out for a really nice dinner and then we saw a movie. Previous to this date, we had a couple long phone conversations (one was over 2 hours long) and we seem to have a lot in common. The date was fun, we got along well and talked, etc. When he dropped me off, there was no attempt on his end to hug or kiss me. I said thank you and he said he had a really good time and that was it. Minutes after I got into my apt, he called to ask me the best way to get home... we talked for a few minutes and then he said "well, give me a call when you have some time." I said ok and we hung up. Now, my question is, don't you think this ended a little weird? Do you think that if he was interested, he would have said that he'd call me, or that he wanted to see me again sometime, or maybe he would have tried to kiss me or something? I just think it's a bit odd that he left the ball in my court to call him. Now I'm not sure if I should or shouldn't call him. I had fun and I would like to see him again, so on that side of things, I would like to call him. But on the flip side, what if he's really "not that into me" and that's why he said I should call him instead of him saying he'd call me? ALso, how long should I wait to call - I saw him on Monday night? Am I reading way too much into this or what!?
what do you guys think I should do?
C
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Registered: 09-09-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 3:40pm
hhmmmm, a tough one. It seems like he should have tried to show some kind of affection to you but maybe he is shy. He should be the one to want to initiate another date but who knws why he said that, maybe he choked and got nervous because he wasn't sure if he should kiss you or not. There is a lot gray here because you probably don't know enough about him at this point. At this point, don't read too much into it. I would say, give him a call next week to show you are interested. Ask him if he is busy on ___ night and would like to get together. Don't just call to talk. Have a point. If he likes you he will want to make that date with you or if he is busy, try and lock in another date. And if he doesn't, well then - the reality is, he's just not that into you and you deserve someone who is. Plain and simple. Good Luck!
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 3:50pm
If you want to call, call. He's already called you a couple times and you've gone out. So call him once and tell him you'd like to make plans again and then suggest something. If he jumps on it, then you've got your answer. If he says he doesn't know and he'll have to get back to you, you've got your answer then, too. Just call once, that's all you'll need.