Does anyone else....

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Does anyone else....
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 3:54pm
Does anyone else love being single? For the majority of my life, I am 22 years old, I have loved being single. I have only had a few relationships... one lasted 8 months, 3 months, and another that lasted for a month. Now I know that I shoudln't consider these to be relationships but I was committed so therefore I refer to them as being a relationship. I come from a very small town where it seems that right after high school you settle down and get married. I can't wait till my wedding day but I feel that I'm never going to be in the position where I am ready to settle down. I seem to always pick the guys that I know aren't looking for relationships. And when a guy is interested in me I focus on every little flaw. Does anyone else feel this way? I would be interested in hearing about everyone's outlook on relationships. I could definitely use some advice Thanks!
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:20pm

I'm 41 and love being single. I've never been interested in marriage...well, I entertained it for about 37 minutes in 1986, but it's just not a priority for me.

I have to admit that raising my son would have been a lot easier had I had an SO, but he turned out OK (curses a little too much, but doesn't eat with his mouth open and showers regularly) and I don't have any grey hair.

I've had some great men in my life, but never any desire to settle down with just one forever.

I don't want this to sound condescending - but GOD you are SO young - really, don't stress on it. Enjoy your life now - do crazy stuff that you won't be able to when you have a husband and kids.


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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:28pm
I agree with that... I am young and I do things that I wouldn't be able to do if I were married with kids. Sometimes it hard to enjoy the single life when the majority of your friends are married, engaged, or in a committed relationship. My friends are very good about including me with things. I guess it helps that there are three single guys in our "group" but sometimes I feel like I look like the group slut because I'm the only single girl. Which isn't at all true. But sometimes I do feel like the third or fifth wheel. I guess you can't have the best of both worlds.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 6:19pm
If you're happy being single, what's the problem?
I don't understand where you need advice.
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Registered: 06-16-2006
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 7:46pm
I feel like you took those words right out of my mouth! I agree completely, I've only had a few relationships - a 2 year, a 1.5 year, and a 3-month, but always with the wrong guy. Being single again I love the freedoms I have (not that I think a guy should have the right to keep you from doing what you want to do, but I've had a couple of them try). Don't get me wrong - when I eventually get married it will be so much fun but I have no interest right now. I'm 23 and it seems like left and right my friends are getting engaged and married (also a small town)...I'm already being excluded from couples-only activities and all I hear about is wedding photos, bridesmaid dresses, and "can't go out this weekend because I'm going broke with all this wedding stuff". But I just love being single, I'm too young to settle down and I don't want to make the mistake of choosing the wrong guy, I'd rather enjoy life and go out on weekends while I still can.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 12:51pm

I took myself out of the dating realm almost three years ago to work on some personal goals. It doesn't bother me as much as it bothers some of my girlfriends. Holidays are a little tricky sometimes, but not as a rule.

I love movies like When Harry Met Sally, An Affair To Remember, The Notebook and Sleepless In Seattle. I have found that I can satisfy my romantic side by spoiling my male friends. I'll go to their house and cook once in a while, pop in with flowers from the garden and a bottle of wine, etc. It helps, for me, to have that male companionship, even though it's strictly plutonic. Of course, I cherish my girlfriends too.