Does appearance matter
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Does appearance matter
| Wed, 08-15-2007 - 7:03pm |
I know this question can sound cynical and become controversial, but as a single guy I've been thinking very much on how much a woman's appearance matters in her relationship status. I wish you all had pics posted. Because I see certain woman and tell myself she CAN'T be single, which bothers me since I hesitate to even try.
But some woman have told me that there are "attractive" woman who are single and lonely, because maybe they're insecure or have other problems . yes, no?
Kindly elaborate.
But some woman have told me that there are "attractive" woman who are single and lonely, because maybe they're insecure or have other problems . yes, no?
Kindly elaborate.

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I got your point, you obviously did not get mine.
You're asking if appearance matters, correct? What I am saying is that it does matter for women. We all have our own preferences. They might not be the most important, but we all go for what attracts us, which is different for each woman. There HAS to be some type of physical attraction for women, too. It's just not EVERYTHING we're looking for. If that means going for skinny rocker dudes with tatoos, sobeit!
YaYa told you what attracts her. She did not say this was the only thing she looks for in a relationship.
You say you want advice, yet you are very quick to judge and not actually HEAR what we're telling you from the post you are responding to. Either listen up, stop judging and actually learn something OR just go on being ignorant. It's your choice. However if you choose the latter, don't be surprised when people stop responding to your posts.
Best regards,
KCole
- But don't you think you're being superficial.-
No, not at all. I am a visual human being, I like my men to look a certain way and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Would you call me superficial for liking my food cooked a certain way?
- Doesn't your desire lack substance? -
Sorry but the question doesn't really make sense to me. 'Desire' lacks 'substance'? As in, desires are only valid if they have some ellusive 'substance' - smth like, 'I desire a man who is a genius academically and has donated at least £10,000 to charity in his lifetime - regardless of how unpleasant to look at he may be?' Would you classify this as 'substance'?
This is probably a very simplistic answer to your question.....
I just broke up with my boyfriend of one year. I'm attractive. I spent time with my boyfriend while we were dating, or brought him along if one of my girlfriends wanted to go out someplace.
Almost 2 weeks ago I went out with a girlfriend and some guy I was talking to said that infamous statement, "I can't believe you don't have a boyfriend". I said, "I did have one, but we broke up last month." He said, "I can't believe that someone hasn't snatched you up already".
Okaaaaaay. Attractive or not, it doesn't matter. If I just broke up with someone one day, I don't instantaneously "find" another boyfriend the very next day. Sometimes it takes time.
I believe taking appearance into account is called physical attraction. It's kind of essential to a relationship (and can build from first impressions). Otherwise it's just friendship, no?
I can't help but feel that some guys come here and ask us questions like this hoping to hear some sort of validation, that appearance NEVER matters to us and that we'd date slobs who don't take care of themselves who we're not at all attracted to, so long as they're somewhat nice to us. I'm sorry, but the way a man - or anyone - presents him or herself says a lot about him or her. I'm not attracted to every man I come across...that would also make for a messy dating world. Can you imagine if we felt the need to give EVERY single man a shot? Why is it ok for a man to judge based on looks and not a woman? It's human nature, we all have to. Obviously personality and an emotional and mental connection are VERY important, but so is attraction. That's that.
are you british?
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