does this have booty call all over it?

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Registered: 04-20-2003
does this have booty call all over it?
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Sun, 04-20-2003 - 11:05pm
Hi guys!

Ok, here's the deal... I have a friend in Hawaii who I visited last year over Spring Break. I have known him for several years and he has always had the same girlfriend. I ended up seeing him again this Spring Break. He broke up with his girlfriend last year. He and I really connected and I started to look at him differently. I know his family so I felt like a lot was riding on us and therefore nothing serious happened during that week. I know he has feelings for me and he knows I like him. I haven't stopped thinking about him. It's been over a month now. He is only going to be living in Hawaii a few more months. Since the day we left I said that I wanted to visit him again before he moved. Now that there are "feelings" involved between us, I feel like it is more of a booty call than just a vacation if I were to go out there again!! Should I care? I say maybe not. But I can't help to think if it is in my best interest to not go back out there. The last two times I saw him, I was with a bunch of friends and we were all together. This time I would maybe go by myself and so I'm wondering if that would be really awkward. The other thing is that I love Hawaii and I love vacations....so I feel he is not the sole reason for my trip....but yes, it would be different if I knew he had a girfriend. Then no, I would not go back out there. Unfortunately, he's really busy and so I haven't heard from him lately. He has said that he would love for me to visit him again... I just wonder if anyone has been in a similiar situation or has any advice?! Thanks!
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Registered: 04-20-2003
Sun, 04-20-2003 - 11:34pm
Actually, I have been in that situation sort of similar but not quite.

I met someone when I went on a group trip to Cali 2 years ago, while my boyfriend was at home. We connected on a such a level... that connection is still really strong. He knew my situation, so nothing ever happened between us. I just recently went back to Cali in January by myself for business purposes, while my fiance stayed home. I met up with this guy for dinner a couple of times. Nothing happened because I am very loyal and would never cheat. But the situation was kind of awkward given out history.

I think that in your case, it could go either way. If you don't want it to be a strict booty call, then make sure that you have days planned for just yourself, and just see him a few times. If you love traveling that much, you can make the trip more than just about you two.

It still may be a good thing for you to go out there by yourself to really see where things stand between the two of you. You can set limits ahead of time, for what you're willing to do or not to do. However, since he does not have a girlfriend, it's probably in your best interest to go. Life only happens once. You never know what kind of opportunities are passing you by unless you put yourself out there.

Good luck, have fun, and let me know what happens!