Does he want to go out with me?
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Does he want to go out with me?
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 3:06pm |
Hi,
There is a guy I used to work with that I have a crush on. When he left the job he had borrowed something from me. So we recently met up so he could return it and we ended up talking for over 2 hours. He had helped me with a project a couple of months ago and we'd always end up having like 2 hour conversations. Well this past time right as we were about to leave he mentioned a movie that had recently come out. I said I wanted to see it and he said if he ever goes he'd let me know if I want to come. So was this his way of asking me on a date? I should mention that he's shy. He has told me before that he's shy. I'm thinking he might be interested but since he's shy its hard to tell.
What does everyone think?

If he is sparking up 2 hour conversations with you, I'd say he does enjoy talking to you and if he'd consider a movie, then he might want to hang with you and since you said he is a bit shy, then through deductive reasoning, I'm going to venture and say:
Sounds like he is interested!!!!
Keep us posted.
Yeah, that sounds to me like exactly the way a more shy guy asks you out. It's probably also that he doesn't want to be rejected, so he's not putting it out there as a direct question, where you can answer, "no thanks."
Hi scooby,
I'm almost inclined to say that he borrowed something from you so he had a good excuse to see you again. Also, assisting you with a project is another possible sign of interest especially if he made the offer to help. Many men like to be thought of as a "hero" in the eyes of the woman they desire. But I don't see anything special about the fact that he spends over 2 hours talking to you whenever you are together. If you didn't have a crush on him you probably wouldn't think much of it either. You used to work with each other so you already have something in common, plus you wouldn't expect him to just return whatever he borrowed and leave.
IMHO: I think he was asking you out on a date but in an indirect way as to avoid an official rejection. You didn't tell us how you reacted to his question though. I assume he already has your number? If you responded positively then that will be ingrained in his memory and it will be just a matter of time until he plucks up the courage to call. I'd say he is pacing up and down his living room searching for the right words and trying to overcome the pangs of anxiety.
He does really sound like he is interested. I had a shy guy who liked me once and he indirectly asked me to the cinema by saying he wanted to go see a certain film but had no one to go with, an i said 'well i'll go with you sometime if you want' and he said 'ok when?' and i arranged a date (we ended up dating for over a year.)
Why don't you call him and ask him to go watch the film? =) Then you can find out.
Thanks to everyone who replied.
As to how I reacted when he asked me, I just smiled and said sure. We said a few more things and then when we were leaving I told him to just let me know if he ever goes. I hope that wasn't too much.
Thanks again for the replies.