Does a mans looks count or not?
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| Wed, 05-16-2007 - 3:35pm |
I hate to sound bitter, but why do women say this all the time? That looks don't matter as much as guys think, yet they swoon over gorgeous guys like crazy! I mean why else were women so excited to see brad pitt in troy? Why else do women go crazy watching a chippendale dancer? I even read an article about a women describing the pitfalls of dating a gorgeous man, one was that he was constantly being chased by other women.
Guys didn't just come up with the idea of women liking gorgeous men just like that you know. You see it everyday in society.
The same goes for money. I mean girls literally fall over guys with money. Yet most women will continue to say that they don't want a guy with a lot of money, but only financial stability.
So ladies what gives?

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I won't only date gorgeous guys, but if a guy's looks turn me more off than on, then that's just not going to work.
There's an old saying that goes like this - "Birds of a feather flock together."
Yeah, women like to look at a cute guy. Men like to look at a cute girl, right? So it's no different. We like to look just as much as you do. Believe me. (Although Brad Pitt does nothing at all for me.) That doesn't mean we're going to GO for them - but there's nothing that says we can't window shop. And don't tell me YOU don't gawk at a hot girl when you see one.
Money? Well that depends on who you ask. Yeah it's important for most women to have a guy who has some financial responsibility and security. That's basic biology. The female of the species wants to have the best man around who can provide for any potential offspring - that holds true. But the girls who will fall all over themselves for a guy with wads of cash hanging out of his pocket - well, all I can say is that water seeks it's own level (hence the birds quote). A man with loads of cash will *usually* have the most physically attractive woman on his arm that he can find. Because, believe me, if you *want* the most physically attractive woman, you have to be able to "afford" her upkeep, and her upkeep don't come cheap. So, no, it's not ALL women - just the shallow ones. Hopefully it's not the shallow ones you're going after.
Edited 5/16/2007 4:09 pm ET by emdeesea
This is but one woman's opinion (mine):
Looks only matter to me in as far as the guy falls w/i acceptable range of attractiveness. i.e. I prefer tall men but if the guy is shorter but is well-proportioned and has other great things then borderline looks become hot. However if he fall outside the range then it won't matter. i.e. I don't like fat (a little chubby is OK) but overweight is a no-no and uncompromisable at this point.
More important than looks is money. I have to admit to this but I myself make pretty good money (definately not rich but by current standards pretty good) so I'm not looking for a sugar daddy. I can buy that condo or mercedes myself. By the same token I don't want the burden of being the main bread-winner in a household so he has to make the money. However, he has to be my intellectual equal as well, a crude redneck who won the lotto won't do it for me.
>So redonculous - why the new screen name?<
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Personally, I watched Troy for Sean Bean. And what a horrid movie! He was the only high point. Alas.
Can't stand Chippendale dancers.
I've yet to see a woman I respect fall all over a man because he's loaded. Sure, there are women who do that, but there are also guys who fall all over themselves because of big boobs. Doesn't matter what the rest of her looks like and they seem to forget those are going to be knocking around the knees someday. (Unless he's traded her in for a trophy wife, of course)
If you're looking for a trend, you'll find it. You'll find women panting after hot men. You'll find men panting over hot women. Same thing with big bucks. But you'll also find homely men with hot women and hot men with homely women. You'll find fat with thin, short with tall... Just be sure you'll looking at all couples and not dismissing the rest as you look for validity in an unsubstantiated theory.
This is one 36 y old woman's point of view:
Re: looks - sorry but 100% totally most definitely yes, it is EXTREMELY important to me, I have a certain 'type' that I go for and no matter how amazing the man is in all other respects if he does not have that look (absolutely gorgeous to me and probably repulsive to many: think Tommy Lee of Motley Crue or very similar), I simply am not interested, period, end of story.
Re: money - absolutely do not care whatsoever. Never did, never will. I don't care how much he has in the bank, what he does for a job (in case he has one), where he lives, what he drives (if anything)etc etc etc. I just want him to be gorgeous in my sort of way, decent, kind, and feel the same for me. End of story.
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