Does a mans looks count or not?
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| Wed, 05-16-2007 - 3:35pm |
I hate to sound bitter, but why do women say this all the time? That looks don't matter as much as guys think, yet they swoon over gorgeous guys like crazy! I mean why else were women so excited to see brad pitt in troy? Why else do women go crazy watching a chippendale dancer? I even read an article about a women describing the pitfalls of dating a gorgeous man, one was that he was constantly being chased by other women.
Guys didn't just come up with the idea of women liking gorgeous men just like that you know. You see it everyday in society.
The same goes for money. I mean girls literally fall over guys with money. Yet most women will continue to say that they don't want a guy with a lot of money, but only financial stability.
So ladies what gives?

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>>>So redonculous - why the new screen name?<<<
I assure you I am not because I happen to disagree with mrrob2006. Sorry, dude. I understand your frustration, but from my personal experience and witness, looks really aren't that important to females. Some of the biggest players back in high school and college I've seen were pretty average looking, and even ugly. Likewise, I've seen some pretty handsome guys fail MISERABLY with girls. I knew this one guy in high school who looked like an Abercrombie model, but was pretty shy and only hooked up with 2 pretty average looking girls in high school. I know this one guy from Germany. He's tall, blond, muscular. He plays on the school soccer team. You'd think he'd be a huge jock, but when you talk to him, he's a huge nerd. He just likes talking about videogames, and he just acts and says goofy things sometimes. He hasn't had very much luck hooking up in college.
I know for a fact that an average or even physically unattractive guy who's funny, witty and charming can score tons more girls than a guy who's really good looking but socially inept.
Likewise, I don't think money's that much of a concern though. A woman may marry a rich man, but that won't stop her from sleeping with the pool boy who's working for minimum wage.
I will disagree with the women, however, that a man's physical attractiveness to women is comparable to women's physical attractiveness for a man. It really isn't. Any girl can easily make herself more attractive. She can get it shape, use lotions and tanning to tone her skin, she can do her hair, put on a little eyeliner. These are all thing she can WILLINGLY control. Any girl can be a bombshell if she literally just tried. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but to me and most guys, a physically unattractive girl is a lazy girl.
However, women find certain things about a guy unattractive that he can do absolutely nothing about. A man who's short cannot make himself taller. He cannot change his eye color or the shape of his jaw. In this sense, I do believe that women are shallow in this field because these are things he cannot control. But then again, whit and charm overcomes looks, or lack thereof, anyday.
Edited 5/28/2007 3:20 am ET by redonculous
Edited 5/28/2007 3:26 am ET by redonculous
Is it really so surprising to know that women love hot men? I mean geez if a guy has a nice but, six-pack abs, and a great smile do you really expect women to say "oh he's just some other guy."? Although I do agree with the others that personality does beat looks any day (although I wouldn't downlplay looks as much as redoncolous and cml7721, I don't know about you ladies, but hey even i can't keep my eyes of a hot guy).
So you can definetely make up for a lack of good looks by creating a great personality. Besides no matter how hot you are theres one thing that definetely is a huge turn-off and that is a whiner. So stop whining, start reading so that you can be a interesting conversationalist, get your saggy but in the gym and tone up, and learn to just relax and enjoy life. You'll see your girl problems end there.
I completely agree...
Besides no matter how hot you are theres one thing that definetely is a huge turn-off and that is a whiner.
Yep, I agree, too. Whining is completely unattractive.
Edited 5/28/2007 11:29 am ET by cl-countrygrlupnorth
"Yes, but can you and have you been charming and charismatic enough that you were charmed and intrigued enough to look past his not-so-stellar looks?"
Hasn't this already been discussed? You can make up for a lack of good looks by being real chariming, but if the guy looks like brad pitt and especially if he has the charm to go with it don't be surprised if women love him.
Edited 5/29/2007 12:55 pm ET by cml7721
"Bad boys? I am really sick of all these self-proclaimed good guys whining about how the nice guys finish last. Girls may not give the nice guys a thought, because they spend all their time on the sidelines! The "bad boys" are the ones who are putting themselves out there. Women won't know you're interested if you don't let them know. We aren't mind-readers. "
I am having a conversation about this with a girl I know .. . .and we are talking about stereotypes and more about the personality disorders attached to a lot of it. (-: Insecure for example is associated with nice guys but all to often manifests itself in abuse . . . . overconfidence can also be a direct overcompensation for insecurities . . . but you are dead on . .. cant blame the girls if you are sitting in the corner of the room. (-:
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((((That's as inaccurate as saying 90% of men are only interested in having a Barbie Doll on their arms.))))
Thank you for saying that. I openly say looks mater to me in a woman . .. but can never tell you what they are. I have dated tall, short, slim, heavy . .. the "looks" to me is in the animation of the face . . .the smile, a kindness in her eyes . .. it is a package that is attractive in is totality . . and frankly . . .I have never seen that "kind" eye thing in a woman who disappointed me when we talked. (-: What motivates me to try a conversation with a stranger is all in the face. (-: I think this guy is bitter, and not seeing things well at all. I am not a "great looking" guy . .. I am to tall and to skinny . . . but I am great looking to some . .. and those are what you search for . . it is called a good and comfortable match .. . not expecting anyone and everyone to fall for you because you are breathing, then blaming them for not doing it . . .. (-:
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