Does This Mean That We're Together Now?

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Does This Mean That We're Together Now?
Sun, 09-08-2013 - 6:00pm

I told a guy i've been seeing that i don't sleep with guys unless we've both agreed to be in a monogomous relationship. This way for me, i know that we are both on the same page and he knows where i'm coming from and what i expect. He then responds that he has never cheated on woman before as he has explained to me previously. And, he feels that when he is with someone and has spent so much time with them and working to build a good relationship then he doesn't feel that it's worth it to cheat. He said that if there is ever a piece of booty that he feels is too good to resist that he would rather tell his woman that it's not working out and leave before he cheats. He has told me that since we have been talking he has not spoken to not 1 other woman and although he has had the opportunity to sleep with any woman he wants (being in the restaurant business), he didn't because he's not like that. He also said that he expects the same from me with being honest and upfront. I thought the way he handled it was very mature and unique. Now, as a female i think alot :) I'm wondering if this means we're more serious now or am i taking it too much to heart. What do you think?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-08-2013 - 6:18pm

I wouldn't say that it means you're serious, but my interpretation of his words would be that he doesn't sleep with more than one woman at a time.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 09-08-2013 - 7:43pm

Yeah, I know it's easy to over analyze and read into things but it's also dangerous ;)  If you are wondering where the relationship stands, I would just come right out and ask . . . Assuming you've been dating for a significant amount of time.  

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Registered: 09-11-2013
Wed, 09-18-2013 - 7:21pm
Sounds like he thinks you are together but how do you feel? It might not be a bad idea to wait for the right opportunity to raise the subject. If he responds negatively, then it is best to know now.