Does SIZE really matter?
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Does SIZE really matter?
| Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:15pm |
When it comes to engagement rings, does the cut of the diamond matter to YOU or are other qualities more important (type of cut of the diamond, clarity of the piece, settings whether on yellow gold or platinum, etc²)???

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I would like to buy myself a diamond ring someday; something simple but of impeccable quality. I love diamonds but I'm picky.
I had a boyfriend once who bought me a very tacky garnet (nothing against garnets) ring and I gave it back to him. I would have never worn it so I figured he might as well get his money back. I don't consider myself to be materialistic either, quite the contrary. To me, jewelry is very personal. To me, it's like a hair style. I just couldn't wear something that wasn't "me".
If I have my ring by the time I meet Mr. Right, if he exists, then I would happily settle for a simple wedding band. If I don't have one, well, I would consider his financial situation. I would either suggest getting no ring at all or, if I was in the position to, I'd gladly offer to help pay for what I wanted.
You know, I can't imagine dating a man long enough to fall in love, long enough for him to learn almost everything about me and his not asking me for input or at least asking a close friend of mine for help. Although, I'm sure that happens all the time and to the dismay of many women!
WHOADIE PEOPLE!!!! Why is there two sides in this simply asked question??!? Some of you guys are really getting heated over a simple jewelry topic. I think some of the ones that think all these "superficial" "materialistic" tones are simply just bitter. All I wanted to ask was your prefference on the type of stylized ring you liked VERSUS what you think is tacky. loll. You people are hillarious.
As far as the REAL opinion message responders. Does the setting of whether it is silver, gold, or platinum matter?? I've always had fetish about yellow gold jewelry at a early age because my mom used to sell jewelry, but when I got a little older, I began liking silver and platinum kinds.. As a filipina, I've always found gold much more suitable for our natural complexion. But, does that matter?
Thanks for making this a fun message board~ =0)
eReader_k007
How can you possibly know my tone when responding?
Yellow gold is more classic. White gold is the new trend. Platinum is a more durable, pure metal, however it does tarnish over time.
My ring is a 1/2ct emerald cut with yellow gold band. It is near colorless (G-H) with an middle grade clarity (VS1). Its not the biggest, the best or the whitest diamond ever made. But those you pay for with big bucks. A 10k threshold for a diamond ring is ludicrous. Who can honestly afford that...why put yourself in debt over a ring, when you can get a nice ring for much less and put the rest of your money towards a home, a car, other debt, etc. My fiance and I went together and I picked out six different rings with two different stone shapes. The only thing I was fussy on was I wanted yellow gold and it did not have to be a big diamond (1/2 ct to 3/4 ct). He went from there, did his research and picked out a ring I absolutely love. He paid 2850 for it and its worth about 6k.
The biggest diamond doesnt equal the best diamond. Far too many women are obsessed with the size of the stone. You can have this huge 2 ct diamond ring with huge black carbon lines visible to the eye. UGLY! Or people want the rings 4 smaller stones made to look bigger just to get the "big" effect.
For some people size does matter, but what matters more? The love and bond you as a couple share and the commitment you are about to make for the rest of your lives, or the ring???
I can certainly see where you're coming from, but I don't believe that in all cases this is true. For example, I had an LTR beginning in college that lasted for years; very lovey-dovey, passionate, always talking to each other about "forever," yada yada. Well, eventually we did grow apart and break up, and then he reveals that he'd had a ring and planned to propose for quite some time.
He told me all this in almost a "ha-ha" sort of way, saying, "yeah, and it's a NICE one, too." He described it as yellow gold, multiple stones, appraised at $6-7K, but he'd lucked out and got it for $3K on eBay.
We'd talked about likes/dislikes in jewelry, gemstones, etc. so many times over the years we were together. He knew I always preferred silver jewelry and wore it; never liked yellow gold. I'd even told him I didn't ever want a diamond; the conflict surrounding diamond export and industry is something I feel strongly about and I knew it wasn't something I'd be able to look at daily on my hand in good conscience.
To me, this was a case where he decided to completely ignore my thoughts and taste and get what HE wanted. In a way, it was almost a suggestion of "control" rather than love. And the eBay thing...just struck me as esp. tacky. I would swoon anyday for a simple white gold band, or simple design, or vintage/antique ring that doesn't have to cost more than a couple hundred bucks...as long as it was given with love and some inkling of thoughtfulness as to who I was and what I liked.
as long as it was given with love and some inkling of thoughtfulness as to who I was and what I liked.
That's all I want, too.
What matters more: "the love and bond you as a couple share and the commitment you are about to make for the rest of your lives, or the ring???"
Both! LOL
Smile,
Deirdre
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