Does SIZE really matter?

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Does SIZE really matter?
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:15pm

When it comes to engagement rings, does the cut of the diamond matter to YOU or are other qualities more important (type of cut of the diamond, clarity of the piece, settings whether on yellow gold or platinum, etc²)???

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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 7:32am
My friend has an emerald cut diamond it's a really pretty cut of a ring and is very big on her hand and it's a very beautiful ring don't get me wrong but does NOT sparkle at all because it doesn't have a lot of facets due to the cut so it doesn't catch the light. My first diamond when I was first married was my yia-yias handed down to me from my mother, I had it reset in a more modern setting, after my divorce I had my yia-yias original setting restored that diamond caught the light beautifully and sparkled even when it was dirty. It was beautiful and it was not a big diamond I got compliments on that diamond all the time and I had a really beautiful setting very simply, I had a color changing sapphire put in the setting after my divorce.

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 12:39pm

>>It's just a huge pet peeve of mine. As a society, we're way too focused on the superficial things in life. When it comes to relationships, a lot of women- especially younger ones- are more focused on the ring, the "big day", and how everything looks than the "till death do us part" part of it all.

Well, we all know the marriage is the FURTHEST thing from my mind and I definitely wouldn't love a guy any less if he got me a smaller ring or whatever, but I think - as with any gift - time and thought should be put into it. It's just respectful.

And as for thinking about the "big day" and whatnot...to me it's just fun to look at rings and dresses and whatever without thinking they're in my near future, much as it's fun to look at shoes I can't afford! Call me a girly girl. :)

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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 3:05pm

If/when my BF ever pops the big question, I'm not sure I'm keen on the ring thing.

Not that I wouldn't like it, but I just don't wear jewelry. If I do, I lose it. And me being a nurse, I'm not going to want to wear jewelry on my hands for fear of ruining it, losing it or catching it on a patient. LOL!

So maybe a simple silver band. That's about it. And that's even IF I remember to wear it.

To me it's almost a form of idolatry. Or rather - there's a word for it that I can't think of - but it's the worshiping and making the SYMBOL more important than what that symbol actually STANDS for. Like burning the American flag is illegal but the American flag is supposed to stand for freedom.

Yeah I know - way too deep. :) I'm just not much for jewelry. I'd rather he take us on a trip to Fiji or make a down payment on a house.

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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 4:14pm

My best friend has a beautiful ruby/diamond set. She wanted the diamond, her husband wanted the ruby because it's her birthstone.


The compromise? A diamond in the middle, with rubies going around it. The wedding band is a gold band with one ruby, so they make a complete circle around the diamond. Very cool.


They went to a JP and got married... 14 years later, they're still going strong. Weddings are for one day, a marriage is forever.


And if I know Mr. Pooh, he would buy me an "engagement gadget".


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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 4:41pm

I lose rings ALL the time...I should just get used to wearing one, for whatever reason. I lost my class ring from college, which I'm still beating myself up about. I just absent-mindedly play with them, take them off....and then, I have no idea where they go.

I still like the idea of an engagement ring though, but maybe just a pretty wedding band. As unconventional as I am about some things, I suppose this is one thing I'm relatively traditional about. I wouldn't spend huge sums of money on a wedding, but it's a celebration of something big. I'd want to get dressed up, want to be surrounded with my friends and relatives, want to make toasts and have fun and mark the occasion. For me, I'd love it to be personal though....ie one of my aunts makes amazing wedding cakes, one of my friends does gorgeous flower arrangements, that kind of thing. A friend of mine got married in May and rented a nice, big house on the water, had the ceremony on the lawn, everyone still got dressed up, but it was so great and individualized....the best wedding I've been to, and I've been to quite a few, surprisingly!

I'd also like to buy a right-hand ring at some point...I like the symbolism and why not seize an opportunity to buy myself some jewelery??

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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 4:58pm
I'm pretty simple with rings too and think that it's the person a lot more than the ring that matters. I agree with your points on this matter. I don't think about rings until I get to a point in life where I can think about it. I guess in a way I dont' like to get my hopes up unless it becomes closer and closer to a reality. I think dating first, then serious relationship, then serious talk of engagement, THEN the ring. I do know that if I get to that point then I would either like platinum or white gold, I'm not a yellow gold person and just a stone that has character and fits me. I don't care much, if at all, about price and the cut. I think I would be more than lucky just to get a semi-decent ring. I know what I prefer per say, but I"m not going to throw a fit if I don't get what I had imagined. I would just be very grateful to be that important to someone. I do think society puts WAY too much importance on the ring and the elaborate wedding and a lot of the times women will wave their blinding diamond in front of you to brag "look what I got". if I get a nice ring I will be super happy and grateful AND I will be humble, only showing it to my closest friends who really want to see it and definately not to brag.
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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 5:47pm

I lose everything. My keys, my pens, my work stuff, school stuff, my CAR (can't remember where I parked!!). I'm bad. So it's just best for me to go out not loaded down with important things for me to lose. I'm convinced that this is the beginning of Alzheimer's. :)

>A friend of mine got married in May and rented a nice, big house on the water, had the ceremony on the lawn, everyone still got dressed up, but it was so great and individualized....the best wedding I've been to, and I've been to quite a few, surprisingly!<

That sounds wonderful. Low-key and not too serious.

I've always thought my wedding is going to consist of a very small, intimate ceremony in a park somewhere, low-key, casual wear, followed by a barbecue with the WORKS - barbecue, burgers, brats, beer, margaritas for eveyrone!, frisbee, a DJ, and a wonderful wedding cake made of Ding Dongs! (I saw this in a magazine and cracked up - that's so my style!)

No fuss, no muss. That's me. And I'm certainly not going to buy a dress for several hundred dollars that I'll wear once and then put in a box. THAT money can go towards said trip to Fiji. :)

Now if I could only get HIM to go for it. :)

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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 5:58pm

I am SO GLAD that I am not the only one who feels that way about weddings.

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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 7:35pm

I'd love to be talented enough with a sewing machine that I could either make my own wedding dress or buy a plain white "prom dress" from one of those teeny-bopper stores at the mall and add my own touches to it. I love pretty wedding dresses, but the reality is, I'd never in a million years be able to afford thousands of dollars for a dress (and unless I had all the money in the world to spend on a whim, I probably wouldn't want to spend that much, anyway).

I do want a traditional wedding in a function hall of some sort, but not posh and extravagant. I'm one of those girls who wants the whole nice wedding thing, but I know in reality, I'm not going to have an endless supply of money to spend, and I want to be realistic.



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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:32pm
I would do it just like Sandra Bullock did. Low key, casual, simple and very romantic. I've never seen a pic of her on her wedding day so no one has any idea what her dress looked like. I think she's smart anyway and she really showed it with how she planned her wedding. Not like Eva Longoria - anyone else sick of that wedding? Thank goodness it's over but leading up to it was nauseating. Media whoooor.....lol.
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