Does SIZE really matter?

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Registered: 12-24-2006
Does SIZE really matter?
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 2:15pm

When it comes to engagement rings, does the cut of the diamond matter to YOU or are other qualities more important (type of cut of the diamond, clarity of the piece, settings whether on yellow gold or platinum, etc²)???

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:33pm

Well as one that is planning a wedding, I can say that the brides that get really over the top and giddy about the whole thing just totally weird me out and I wonder if they're feelings are genuine or not. I am a pretty low key person and I dont talk about the wedding or the plans unless I am asked but people are always like "Are you excited, what are you doing for this, and this....and ooooh that sounds like...blah blah blah..." Whatever!! I dont get gushy or sick about it. I'm like the anti-bride with my LDR situation anyway as R isnt here to do a lot of things with me, and we have a realistic budget and a nice, elegant, classy wedding planned but not over the top at all. Its a wedding, not a show.

I just keep in mind that no matter what happens on the day of the wedding, the size of the ring or the expense of the dress....none of those things hold a marriage together.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:41pm

Emerald cuts are the type of diamond that need a middle to high grade clarity and an excellent cut on the facets in order to be beautiful and really "sparkle." I have seen some really hideous emerald cut diamonds that dont sparkle at all. With the side step facets, it has a different kind of fire and brilliance compared to a round diamond. I'm really happy with my ring, and I love the stone shape because its different from what most women get (Not defending myself, just explaining more). Even some round diamonds dont have fire or brilliance simply because the cut isnt that great. 60% of a diamonds value is in the cut.

Its way more about the entire characteristic of each individual diamond. I've seen some hideous 1 carat stones that women thought were the cats ass because it was a big diamond but it was yellow like someone peed on it and it had huge black lines through it. I've seen some gorgeous 1/2 to 3/4 carat rings. Every woman is different too. There are some rings people try on and I think, ugh, not for you! Then the next woman walks in and the same one is gorgeous on her.

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:50pm

I'm bad with losing stuff, too...forgetting things even moreso. I think I lose my train of thought more than anyone I know. I'l literally stop mid-sentence and say, "wait, what was I talking about?" :)

Oh, the wedding in the house was amazing...they still had it catered, so the food was really good and professionally served and presented...even someone to staff a full bar inside the house. The music was just random people grabbing their iPod's and putting them into a Bose dock...her husband is Mexican, so we'd alternate Mexican and American songs...some of his friends were quite cute, so dancing all night to latin music with cute Latino boys is not so bad, either. :) We all just sang and dances and laughed and, um....drank (a tad too much, of course)...it really got me thinking about what makes a good wedding. I've always had this idea of the water (I don't know what I would do with myself if I didn't live near SOME major body of water)...I have to say, I'd probably still go for the expensive dress, though...not Vera Wang, here, just something...well, who knows. Depends on what I can afford way down the line. :)

In so many respects, I'm a guy's girl, but I love my shopping/clothes/shoes, even though I don't have much money to spend on any of it!

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:54pm

>Although the parents made the food, and it was smoked meat, potato salad, and beans, and it was at the Elks Bingo hall. Nothing fancy, and nothing that you had to order in advance. <

Oh my gosh - and would you totally agree that those were the best and most fun weddings ever? And with the nicest people?

I am *from* a family who has had these expensive, elaborate weddings, and I just can't see it for myself. I WANT the low-key, smoked meat, potato salad, baked beans, Ding Dong cake type of wedding! I WANT my friends and family to have a good time, no pressure, no fuss, just have a blast, drink some margaritas and beer, play some volleyball and frisbee, have fun type of occasion! It's ME for god's sake! Let's party!

It's not about the party - it's about the fact that I love the man I'm with. That's it. Not the dress, not the ring, not the cake, not the spotlight... it's just a party. I's married now! Let's have fun! :)

Now, like I said, if I can only convince HIM!

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:55pm

>>I was starting to wonder if I'm weird or something- like the rest of the single women in the world are secretly dreaming of being in the spotlight while I would hate it!

No, my mom would love you. :) She hates big parties (birthday parties are non-existent in my family) and she and my dad got married at a farmhouse by a justice of the peace. She'd love it if I had no intention of ever having a traditional wedding. :) She has warmed to the house idea, though...

Anyway, it's really not at all about being desperate for a man or any such thing. It's more (to me) about having an excuse to throw one really great party (I also want to be an event planner, keep in mind) for the people you love, to celebrate love. I'm sounding like a Hallmark card, but it's true. :)




Edited 7/11/2007 10:57 pm ET by cml7721
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 7:47am
I remember years ago my ex-husband bought me diamond earrings and I returned them because one of them had a black what looked like a thread running through a corner of it, now they weren't very big diamonds I think they weren't even 1/4 carat tw so they were small I think I upgraded to 1/4 carat after that, but the girl had to look really close to see the black thread with a loop I think to see it she's like how on earth did you see it with a naked eye. ROFL...I have good vision. ROFL WTF if he's spending my money on diamonds they better be good.

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Deirdre

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Registered: 07-12-2007
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 6:16pm

A guys view,

Well hey, i would hope size doesn't matter. I wouldn't want to be with some materialistic.

My wife told me she would have been happy with any ring. She even joked around and said well you haven't graduated law school yet so i can't ask for my monster diamond ring...if not i wouldn't get any gifts for years. I laughed.

She told me she didn't care and that she loves me for who i am. The size of the ring doesn't matter as long as it was meant from my heart.

It was meant that way when i gave it to her.

So unless you're trying to show off to someone...or have some sort of personal preference in you on what size you want...it shouldn't really matter.

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 6:28pm
One's finance should be the gem, and not to worry about, or place so much importance on a piece of jewelry on your finger! I'm not a person who has the need to try and show off to anyone; I am content with who I am.

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