dont know how to read this guy...

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Registered: 02-20-2002
dont know how to read this guy...
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 9:44pm

So, I am back in the dating scene. Haven't been in a relationship, dated, or any intimacy in a couple of years.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 10:10pm
Hmmm...something definitely seems fishy. Have you met any of his friends or family? That's usually how I know I'm not the other woman or second girlfriend. He really doesn't seem all that into you. Maybe you should keep looking elsewhere, just so you don't get too disappointed.
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Registered: 03-08-2012
Thu, 03-08-2012 - 1:22am

I am sorry to say this, but it has only been a month since you started dating

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Registered: 10-13-2006
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 8:20am

It's usually safe to follow your intuition and look into things before you get too involved in this story and end up hurting. Try not to be too paranoid, though, and consider the option that he just has issues, but they might not be HUGE ones, and not necessarily related to some other woman. Trying to talk to him honestly about what bothers you might still be your best bet, but try to make it sweet and nice and not very confrontational. You don't stand to lose too much anyway

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 9:01am

I believe that a woman's intuition is usually correct.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 11:38pm

Well, given the facts you've described, I'd just ask. I'd say, "So I see a photo of you and a girl on your phone; you referred to your girlfriend in the present tense at lunch; and I notice you've cooled down a lot in your pursuit of me.