Dont want to Steal Music's Thunder but I had a date also...OMG.. Its a Miracle.

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Dont want to Steal Music's Thunder but I had a date also...OMG.. Its a Miracle.
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:24pm

Sorry dont want to take the spotlight off Music but a guy saw me online and wrote to me and gave me his phone number.. In turn I sent mine and to make a long story short we went on a date Sunday... We spent time in the park and then we had dinner a and we talked and talked.. The date lasted for 6 hours and he seems okay.... I had a really good time..

I think I like this one and when I got home I didnt know if he was going to call or what.. We never even discussed anything except he gave sublte hints on seeing each other but nothing in concrete so I just thought I will wait and see although who stays on  a 6 hour date who wasnt having fun....and I was like omg I like him alot and we had things in common which never happens to me. ...

So today while I was at the grocery store he called me and we talked on the p hone so I was pretty happy about that... He said he is a retired cop but after he retired he went back to work for a company and then he said he just retired again from that job .. He was so easy to talk to and hoping that we go out again but he hasnt asked me yet...

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-10-2005

Oh, there's enough enthusiasm here for everyone's dates!  Glad you shared...  and it sounds like a nice date.  I do hope you go out again soon.  It's nice that he called, but it would be even better if he tried to make a concrete plan.  Of course, you don't need us to remind you - but be cautious until you truly know him better.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Halleluia!  lol  There must be some kind of love spell going around.  I have one friend who started a long distance relationship since the beginning of this year--the first weekend he visited her was the weekend in Feb. where we had the huge blizzard & they got snowed in and the power went out, so I guess you learn a lot about someone in those circumstances.  Then my other friend was married to a guy in Italy where they used to live--long story, but for the past year she has been here & he was there--well he finally came here so she is very happy too.  And now you & me.  Someone is taking pity on us older women.  So now don't you just hate it when you are waiting for the call to see if you are going out again?  I feel like I'm in the same place--we were on the date for 6 hours, talked a lot, no uncomfortable silences, he gave me his business card w/ all his info, talked about doing things in the future, so you think...but then they have to come through.  so good luck with this one.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Ha.. I know Music just when we have met someone and for me I like this guy for some reason but yes I dont know him and who knows what he is all about.. It could be my lonliness and thinking okay he is good enough (lol).. He is 60 but a young 60 and is in good shape and looks wise he is good and neat and clean and can speak and hold up a conversation and has a brain and from I gather a heart so I am so intriqued.oh; and he has pretty good teeth (lol).. .. yesterday when we spoke he still didnt ask me out and said I could call him anytime but I am still on the fence about that one...but all the gurus say dont go after a man but let them go after you so I am confused now about that one....to this day even at my age..

All I know is that I would love to just have some sort of relationship with him and if he doesnt want to then its going to be pretty disappointing because actually we had alot in common.. (go figure).. Only thing he is on a dating site and we all know about that..

Gee; I hope your guy calls you again and goes on another date.. .. Do you think he wants you to call him and set something up???

Oh; Life ....

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Registered: 11-28-1999

No, I am not going to ask him out directly.  He seemed to be able to put together the 1st date fine by himself so I think he can do it again.  I did email him after the date saying sorry I kept him up so late (he probably got home at 1:30 am and he said he was meeting his DD for breakfast at 8:30 a.m.) and also sending him links to these websites we were talking about that have all the schedules of dances in our area.  He did write back the same day--if he had ignored me, then I would have figured he wasn't interested.  Plus we had been talking about this "dance camp" that my school is having next month.  I told him I was going, did not ask him to go, he brought it up himself that he might go.  And the single parents group we both belong to is having a dance at the end of April which I have already signed up for & he said he was going to go to that but I notice he has not signed up for it yet.  We were looking at the calendar of events for our group together and that was the first thing of mutual interest that came up.  So I'm thinking the signs point toward seeing each other again.  Now since this weekend is Easter, I don't expect a date, but I do hope I hear soon.

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Registered: 05-14-1999

Free, I think this is just awesome.  I'm so happy for you.  I think the fact that you've already heard from him again is a wonderful sign and I would gamble that there is a date #2 in your future.  

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Oh; My

He called again today in the afternoon.. Here is how it went.. He said he was calling me because he ate some cereal this morning and he sprinkled cinnamon on it and he thought of me. Ha.. we were talking about cinnamon and how it is good for you and I said well then just sprinkle some on your cereal so he did (lol)..

We didnt talk long because he said he was going into a lunch place and grabbing a sandwich and going shopping... So I said okay have a nice lunch and then of course I thought Oh; my maybe he is meeting someone for lunch.. See where our minds go ?? Anyway; that was it but so far he has called Monday and today to just see how I am..

 

 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
I agree that we shouldn't chase guys, but that's hard for me too. I've been told that I come off as disinterested, so I try to make an effort to show I'm interested. But then that can come off as chasing. We can't really win! I do think that if he's calling you about cinnamon, he's definitely interested. Cinnamon isn't all that exciting. He was definitely grasping for a reason to call.
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Registered: 11-28-1999

It's always hard to judge the line between showing interest and being clingy.  I just feel that want to show interest but then step back a little to let the guy make the next move.  I don't want to be the one always pushing, cause I think then it makes the guy step back.  I'll let you know if that actually works out.

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Registered: 05-14-1999

LOLS @ Shy . . . I agree. If he called you about a spice, it's not reaaly about the spice, but the fact that he thought of you, then called to tell!  So sweet, I'm loving this stuff!  Keep it coming ;)

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Registered: 01-02-2008

oh; Dear something went wrong already....

Here is the update.. Last night guy called me while I was driving in my car and I couldnt talk so he said then call me when you get home. So I did call h im when I got home but the conversation was not going well.. It appeared he was crouchy or moody and then  because I was eating cereal and he said he could heart me crunch it (lol).. I hadnt eaten all day and it was like 10 pm... Anyway.. all went from good to bad t o good and then my phone just was acting wonky also so we said goodbye and hung up.. He texted me and asked me if I would meet him at the mall at the eye glass place and I didnt want to because I feel he was so moody on the phone  and I wanted to process the moodiness and thinking what the hell...is going on...

So I said I was busy and that was that.. No more communication and he didnt call today.. I feel that he has a bit   a very inflated ego and is moody and it kinda turned me off..and not sure I can handle that type of person...if we were to date or whatever..

So there you go.. I am very dissapointed but its better to know someone now . Not sure he will call again but that is okay cause what else can I do?? I will just manifest another man and date as I believe I manifested this one..only have to be more specific about it...

Okay dont have pity on me because its okay .. just disapointing but okay...

To be Continued......

 

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