A dork match made in heaven...

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Registered: 04-15-2009
A dork match made in heaven...
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Fri, 11-04-2011 - 12:01pm

Yay me! It’s a IRL connection through the drumming group as I had hoped. Different one from the one I had a crush on, but that really is immaterial at this point. I know it sounds hokey, but have you ever gotten that sign, be it from the heavens or wherever that this is the crazy person for you? Ha ha.. He confirmed for me while I was giving him a ride home from a party that he absolutely loves my two favorite moves, the first one, Star Wars, is not really a difficult match for a guy, but the second one was like a revelation. Once I heard that, I was thinking to myself, “you can’t not go for this one, this is the heavens opening up and showing you neon signs <> at least give him a chance”. When I dropped him off he tried to kiss me and I was so shocked that I didn’t kiss him back, I was not prepared… then the conversation was sort of awkward and he went to his house.

Next day he invited me to join in a parade with a different group for Halloween. It was a very different experience, playing in costume and he wasn’t even drumming!! But apparently he is a really great horn player!! So I was left to make friends with people in percussion and was able to figure out what to do…. what a test!!! This time I knew he was interested and we talked for hours and even sung along to my CD of my co-favorite movie. It was a major dork fest, but what can I say, that’s what I am. We ended up making out for a long while.

So these experiences are really taking a hit on me as far as sleep is concerned because I just don’t want to pack it in for the night, ya know??

Last fun encounter: we had rehearsal then afterward we greeted each other and went our separate ways because he had to make it to the grocery store. I couldn’t help myself, I called him and asked him if we could hang out, he said yes. So I went home to check on my dogs and then we met to a restaurant, he got food I got a beer…I needed a nice cold one!!! Yum!! We talked for hours… made out.. I headed home REALLY early in the morning.

All in all, it is great. He is a bit odd, but in retrospect, so am I, only someone as odd as myself could truly appreciate me and revel in what I am and not discourage it… Rides a bike for transportation, but still has a car. He’s educated and very talented. Has a lot of Star Wars in his house.. J But what really struck me because my mind is so focused on my job is he doesn’t have a steady one, and this is by choice. I think he got burnt out by the rat race and is making ends meet with rental income and consulting jobs. I have to say that I respect that, if I didn’t have tons of student loans, I wouldn’t be so tied to having a job. But I have no choice. Most of all, the guy really likes me and that is so great for a poor girl’s ego, and he is very respectful and gentle. Ahh where will it go from here?

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 12:40pm

Hi;

Ha ha.. What a great story and I couldnt stop feeling good about it after I read it.. I even chuckled a few times.

He sounds good from what you say and you are not having huge expectations which is good also.

As long as he makes his own money legally it doesnt matter what he does.. and doesnt ask you for money its all good.

Hope this continues.. cause you sound so happy and hopeful.

You can get starry eyed but come back to earth here and there (lol)..

I am so happy for you and hope its a good journey...

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 1:39pm

Sounds like a good guy--you never know where these people are going to come from.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 2:34pm

Are you going to invite us to the Star Wars themed wedding?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2007
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 2:46pm
This is the kind of connection I dream of making. Not drumming in my case, but just by pursuing my passions and finding another arts and culture geek like myself.

Great story, melissa, and best of luck to you and the darling dork. He sounds nice!
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 5:53pm
Aww... Keep us updated! I really think having a passion you share is a very good start to a relationship.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2009
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 10:57am

Yeah well things aren't so rosy afterall. I

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:16am

I'm so sorry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:19am

Mel;

I dont know what to say ..except it does sound like some sick joke from the Universe. I am so sorry this happened to you but as they say better to find out now than later before you fell deeply in love.. I know thats no consolation but I give you credit and props for asking him..That was very brave of you and you appear as a very intelligent woman.. You know

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:19am

Oh, Meliss!

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Registered: 04-15-2009
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 12:23pm

Thanks for the lovely thoughts guys! It means a lot to me!!

"You know what I mean ;)" Means he made a decision and took a responsible "medical" action to ensure he would NOT have kids. Its nothing that a girl could possibly be wishy washy about... Changing someone's mind is not the option here.

For the record I did not ask. We were talking about names and I said I would use my favorites on my children or pets, he then said "thankfully I won't have to do that" and then I asked "did you do that thing?". I can't bring myself to say the actual word. He then confirmed that he had. While I respect his decision and know it was the right and responsible thing for him to do, it means the end for me.

You are right, I have to be a lot braver now and more decisive at this stage. Though I am not sure I was very brave but did bare my soul on the subject hours after I found out, but I did take decisive action with regards to our budding relationship.

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