Ego??

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Ego??
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Wed, 10-15-2003 - 11:43am
How can you tell the difference between a man with too big of an ego, compared to one that needs to PRETEND he's all that? I'm out of practice - help!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 11:56am
If you think it is one or the other why are you interested in this person?
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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 12:10pm
I'm interested in learning as much as I can about people in general. I'd like to learn how to avoid certain people in the future. And if someone is hurting and is very uncertain of themselves, why shouldn't I at least be friends with them? Like I said, I've been out of the dating scene for many years and am just looking for some helpful insights.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 12:26pm
difference between a guy with confidense and someone who's just putting on a show:

the guy with confidense can back it up. the guy without will be evasive, vague, etc. when confronted.

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Registered: 10-08-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 12:33pm
Sounds like the same thing to me. If he has a too big of an ego then he really can't prove why his ego is too big, and pretending he's "all that" is still pretending, so basically they are the same thing. Someone trying to be what they're not. And just annoying all the way around.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 12:37pm
I agree - someone who pretends to be "all that" IS someone w/a big ego.

If you want to befriend someone like that, that's one thing; but if I were you, I'd think twice about dating someone like that. He is probably insecure and that's why he tries to prove to the world that he's top dog.

ginger

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 12:45pm
Ego is an inflated sense of "all that' - someone who is all that doesn't boast about it nor do they hide it. It's just "who they are".

You can sit in a room with an olympic gold medalists that self-aware, resonsible and with self-esteem...and if YOU didn't know they won it - they'll never mention it. And if someone else brings it up that joins you both, they'll admit readily "yes, I did that." That's "not egotism but a healthy self-esteem".

Erin

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Wed, 10-15-2003 - 1:13pm
Because that person likely needs a therapist more than a friend, likely cannot give equally in a friendship, and other than learning about people, why would that be a wise investment of your time? And, I think you learn about those types of people by observing their behavior and if they seem overly needy or insecure you learn that that person likely isn't a good candidate for a relationship. Learning why they are like that might be interesting of course but what is the point - why not just take a course in psychology?
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Registered: 09-22-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 6:10am
" How can you tell the difference between a man with too big of an ego, compared to one that needs to PRETEND he's all that? I'm out of practice - help! "

It is interesting to watch all of the different personalities everyday.

I work with a large quantity of men and they range from a wide variety. Women

are not any different. I love to talk with people who don't pride themselves on their ego. Ego's stink in my opinion. My father has always been a great example for me because he is a tremendous golfer, very smart, great work ethic but he never never brags about any of it. He doesn't need to.

Last summer he shot a hole-in-one and everyone in the club house was congratulating him until someone else spilled the beans that it was his EIGHTH ONE!

Got to love him!



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Registered: 05-13-2003
In reply to: newnameforme
Sun, 10-19-2003 - 5:12am
Once you encounter someone with a large ego, try to understand its origins. This understanding can help you build a working relationship with the individual. Hint: Look for pressures in the individual’s work life. If this person's ego makes you feel negatively then you should try and modify it by rewarding acceptable behavior. I think most males are insecure and need reassurance. Some are self-deprecating. i like those. they are so cute when they are fishing for compliments. Sometimes it's annoying and i need a cool and confident man.

WEll good luck

this a guideline to check egotistical behaviour.

Bragging—repeated boasts of superior accomplishments.

Excessive talk—incessant attempts to dominate conversation, or steer the conversation to oneself.

Exaggerated behavior—always attempting to force oneself into the center of activity.

Insensitivity—expressing views or taking actions without regard to the thoughts or feelings of others.