eHarmony...what a waste!
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|Thu, 04-03-2014 - 4:25pm|
I think that ultimately, success in the OLD world depends a lot on the demographics of your area, and who has actually signed up. Pretty much every single guy eH has sent me comes with the caveat "James is a great guy who happens to be outside your settings." Well, what does that mean? Many of my "matches" are from other cities (also outside of my settings). Am I that big of a freak that there aren't men on the site that are a match for me?
I did start the question process with one of the guys who contacted me on the first day. I didn't really feel anything looking at his photos or reading his profile, and I didn't notice that he was yet another who was "outside my settings." I had thought he was "inside my settings." But I thought, "Well, if eHarmony thinks we're such a great match, OK" plus I wanted to see how the process works. One of the excercises is to choose items from a list "Relationship dealbreakers" and it lists things like "lying" and "financially irresponsible". Well duh. Who wouldn't find that to be a deal breaker? By the time we got to "open communication" (we can write anything we want to) I felt no closer to knowing anything about this guy than in the beginning. Plus, the profiles on eHarmony are very structured and not nearly detailed enough.
I never thought I'd say it, but match.com is way better. Even though it's sort of the wild west, at least you get a better sense--both good and bad--of who the guy is.
I stopped corresponding with the guy, I'm just not very interested. I'd love to cancel, but I can't. I'm on the hook for the whole six months. In addition, they rig it so you can only cancel the auto-renew in a very specific window of time. They really want to trick you into auto-renewal. I've read some really bad things about their customer service. So, my advice to anyone thinking of trying it is to wait for a free weekend, or a really, really good deal.
I know there are many people who have met on eHarmony, maybe even some of you. What has been your experience?