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emailing an ex
| Mon, 10-10-2005 - 1:24pm |
Would you ever e-mail someone that you had dated (not really seriously) after 6 months of not speaking? I dated a guy last year, it ended badly (both of out doing, but i overreacted on something) and we havent spoken.
I'm curious as to how he is...but would it be weird for me to send an e-mail?

Who cares what he thinks? What do you have to lose if he thinks it's weird? If I were you, though, I would look closely at my reasons for wanting to contact him. In another thread to Shy, I wrote about emailing the guy who broke my heart and how therapeutic it has been. But I had no wish to get back together with him and only contacted him after he left the state. And I got some closure I wasn't even fully aware that I needed. But it could have turned out differently, I took a chance when I contacted him that the wounds would be opened all over again.
Just think about why you want to be in touch with him and how it might play out for YOU befor you do it.
I agree. I am a person who takes "risks" and several weeks ago wrote a letter to an ex boyfriend that broke up with me close to two years ago (we dated for a year). Something just told me to write him (I literally got up and wrote him a letter in the middle of the night) and now we are talking almost everyday, he apologized for the past (commitment issues) and the possibility of getting back together seems to be there (I am moving back home in a few months for family reasons) although we would need to obviously talk more in person, I will be seeing him for the first time in almost two years over the holidays.
When I decided to write the letter, the worst scenarios to me were a) he would ignore me because he wasn't interested or b) would be involved with someone and ignore me or just tell me so (or tell me to go away). I decided I could live with either of the scenarios compared to just not acting on my feelings at all and wondering what if. So far the best scenario seems to be playing out and I'm glad I took that chance.
Like Jules said, just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, and also be prepared for a negative response or to be ignored, etc. If this is something you can live with and it won't upset you deeply then I say go for it.