The End of Men

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Registered: 01-25-2010
The End of Men
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Wed, 02-22-2012 - 7:01pm

I ran across this article which has profound facts on why dating has become more difficult.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 4:53pm
musiclover12 wrote:

So here's a novel idea--how about we just treat each other as people and not expect each other to fit into any certain roles?

Now wouldn't that be refreshing?!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 10:54pm

Just this: Ya'll better cowboy up.

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Registered: 06-03-2009
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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 9:44pm
It would seem to me that men need to then redefine their role and adapt, just like women have had to for decades and will continue to have to. So what if physical skills don't have the value they used to? There are plenty of other means to make a living with proper training and education. This can lead to new social contracts that make dating different, not necessarily difficult. I think dating will continue to become more and more difficult if men refuse to adapt.
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Registered: 02-13-2012
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 5:26pm

It's probably always been difficult since people want what they can't have. I saw a post on Quora about a 5'0 guy having trouble but another guy responded saying he's well over 6' and also has trouble.


Even in the days when courtship was more like shopping/auctions, there's someone who'll have to say "Baron So&So was able to get more gold because he got lucky in this campaign and that's why he got Lady ___ over meself."


The article mentions an archetypal 85k-making woman with the 12k man. I have to give those guys kudos for landing the girl to begin with. They can be worth more than 12k if they teach the 85k guy how to get the 85k girl! because men still make more on average, I think, (circa 2011 :))

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 11:29am

schadenfreude -

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 10:43am

Ok, so you say the "old rules" were that the man supported the family and the women were primarily homemakers--it hasn't been that way since the 1950's and I don't think most of us are that old.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 10:40am

I guess you haven't been reading the news lately.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 8:55am
martyinca wrote:

Heh... I'm amused by the hypocrisy of all those women who want to be equal---except when it comes to dating and military combat. Women want to make sure those things remain very old-fashioned indeed!

As for telling us to "man up", maybe the women who say that need to "woman up". You'll get better results trying to understand a man's POV than you'll get with rudeness.

Incidentally, ease up on the schadenfreude while you're at it, because it accomplishes nothing.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 8:15am

We have "woman'ed up".

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 12:19am

It is not fear but role emptyness.

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