"The Estrogen Twins"

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"The Estrogen Twins"
Sat, 06-28-2003 - 2:13am
I have posted about my friend R. before, but for the uninitiated and/or senile (wink), here's a quick recap:

I've been friends with R. for years... he is a friend of my best friend and her husband. When I was home over Christmas break, we spent a lot of time together, out to dinner, movies, just hanging out at his house, etc.

Now that I'm home for the summer, same thing... movies, dinner, etc. I really enjoy spending time with him; he is the type of person that I can sit and talk with and not realize that 4 hours have passed.

My dilemma is that after years of dormancy, my hormones have awakened and said "look! a man! whoo-hoo!" and I would LOVE for him to kiss me or something... but chances of that happening are slim to none. My common sense says, "Get a grip! Just enjoy spending time with him!"

Right now I'm keeping a good lock on the hormonal frenzy. Should I give this a little nudge or just leave it where it is for now? My thoughts are to leave it alone, but I was wondering what your thoughts are.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 06-28-2003 - 11:43am
You're gonna think I live in a book-world, but your question reminded me of a couple of books that I've read- both by the same author. I won't buy any more of her books, either, because they drive me nuts!

Her main character in both books had a huge thing for the male "friend", but kept putting him off because it wasn't "right" or something. She'd deny those urges- until the very end, of course, when they ravaged each other. I hate waiting for the last few pages for that stuff to happen. Give me the good stuff in the middle, by golly!

Basically, if you want things to progress, give him signals. Otherwise, you're just torturing yourself. Now, *you* may be into that kinda stuff, but I'm sure not. Sit a little closer, make some more eye contact, lean in when you're talking...all that stuff. Things have been friendly up until this point, so you'll have to let him know your feelings have changed.

Just go for it. You'll probably end up ravaging each other in the end anyway.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 06-28-2003 - 1:51pm
Well, I guess it all depends on what exactly you want. Are you trying to forget about it b/c you just want to stay friends? Cause if you want to kiss him, why don't you kiss him??? Plant one on him. I'm not quite that aggressive - but you could give him the signals. Touching, cuddling, the LOOK...heehee...

If you want to know how to make that feeling go away, I can't help ya there. I only know one way...

Keep smilin'