Eternally single?
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Eternally single?
| Mon, 01-29-2007 - 4:00pm |
Does anyone ever feel like they're destined to be eternally single? I am an attractive woman who just turned 40, but look about 30, am very athletic, have my kids raised, been divorced 13 years now and NEVER have a date. What's up with that? I've tried the Match.com, Yahoo Personals, Fitness singles, and nothing. No one hardly even writes to me on there. I just don't understand it. I don't think my standards are too high - there's no one even offering! Does anyone else have this problem? Don't get me wrong, I have had boyfriends over the past 13 years, but nothing ever panned out. Any ideas? Are some people just destined to be single?

Well, it all depends on your demographics. If you live on the East side of the U.S., assuming you do live in the US, then your chances are slimmer of finding a mate than if you lived on the West side like say, Nevada, or LA.
It might not be you, just where you live where the ratio of women are larger than the ratio of men. Maybe a move is in order?
I think we're at an odd age.
Seems to me that men - even old, unattractive men with no teeth - seem to think they can get hot 20-somethings, so they don't show much interest in women within their age range.
I'm 41, and I tend to date younger guys (30's). By then they usually know if they don't want kids (I don't) and are into a lot of the same stuff I'm into. But I'm competing with the 20/30 AND 40 age groups.
Men in their 40's are usually divorced out of their starter marriage and looking for Bambi.
I don't have any interest in men 50 and up.
Slim pickins. I'm so glad I decided 20+ years ago that I never wanted to get married...takes a lot of pressure off!
And yes - I think some people are going to spend their lives single. By choice or by fate. I think the whole "there's someone for everyone" is at best, fantasy, at worst, bull excrement.
Why not try posting an ad in one of the states which you are considering moving to?
I have to admit though, I can't imagine moving in order to find a mate!? Is the male to female ratio really THAT bad in some areas? Jeesh. If so, that's unbelievable.
I used to limit myself to men of certain races, age range, and height but invaribly someone who's outside the range always managed to capture my fascination and I would fall for him pretty hard. So lesson learned is even when you have certain requirements, they will change. I definately have standards. I didn't consciously change them but these things just creep up on you. All the better for me I suppose b/c now my pool get bigger. I still don't compromise my standards b/c there are certain things that have remained constant such as personal character, world view, etc...so if the man still has these things, I will be happy. I'm sure it's evolving still.