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ever feel freakish
| Tue, 03-14-2006 - 8:19pm |
because you're single? i've been feeling that way for the past year or so now. I'm 27 and was engaged once, been broken up with him for 2 and a half years. Most girls my age are in a race to get married, but not me. Yet i still feel pressure just because this is what all my peers are doing. I feel like peopel think something is wrong with me because i havent found the one. I dont know if i will ever find the one. at 27 i am feeling old and it seems like our society is obsessed with youth. I feel like i am too old and damaged goods for men these days! Seems like they all want a 23 year old. Sometimes i just wish things had worked out with my ex...i never thought being single would be so difficult. but i've realized the main part of it being difficult is how other people make me feel for it ): I'm tired of people asking if i'm dating anyone and i'm tired of not meeting any people who are single. i guess i am venting but i dont know anyone these days who is single...people i know are in RL's even if they are miserable because they say it's better than being alone...

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If only I had a nickel for every time I've been hounded.
You are definitely not alone in your feelings. It's a pretty conventional reaction for our society. "Girl over 21 must be in serious relationship and on road to marriage. ASAP." It's genetic code or something.
Being single is a state of mind.
If you think you're old at 27 think again. Geeze - I'm 35. And the guys MY age want to date 27-year-olds. LOL!
Seriously though - the people I know that are married and have kids - you know, the "American Dream" are all incredibly unhappy people. For example - one woman I work with is 47 years old and now single. Her and her husband (ex husband) got married when they were 23 because it was "what they were supposed to do." She chose to be a stay at home wife and not go to school. You know what happened? He left her after 20 years of marriage for someone with an education and who did things besides sit at home. She recently told me that she envies me because I'm in school and never married - I can do what I want and so forth and I have my whole life ahead of me.
The kids thing is another issue entirely but I love it when people try their best to tell me "HOW GREAT" it is to have children while in the same sentence expressing bitterly to me when I say I'm going to Las Vegas or California this summer or that I slept in till 10 a.m. yesterday - "it must be *nice* to have time to yourself." I'm just not buying that it's all that great.
She's just one example but probably the most extreme that I know of. Marriage is not the key to happiness. You have to be happy with YOU - the marriage thing can wait until the right person comes along. And you don't HAVE to ever marry. Don't let anyone else's narrow view of life mold your own.
It's funny - I never get any grief from anyone for being single; in fact, I get PRAISED for it.
It's only a choice in that we choose to not be in a bad relationship just to be in one.
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