Ex is engaged and I'm Freaking!
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| Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:31pm |
Hey guys,
I was wondering if any of you could give me some advice on how to get over an ex getting engaged to a new girlfriend. I dated this guy 1 1/2 years ago for about 6 months. He was a high school friend of my best friend from college (we'd been friends for a few years before he told me he'd always liked me). Since we have friends in common we run into each other every once in a while. Quick details about the break-up - he started acting aloof so I called him on it and he told me he thought we were in two different places at that time, that his job was so stressful and time-consuming he couldn't give me what I wanted and deserved and he was afraid if we stayed together we'd end up hating each other. In retrospect, I think he exaggerated a lot of stuff to save my feelings but when I think back to the things he did and said right up till we broke up I know he did care about me.
Anyway, turns out about 2 months after him and I broke up he started dating this girl he worked with (I myself have dated here and there but nothing serious). After 1 year of dating they're now engaged and I'm really freaking out. I realize it's better that we didn't stay together - he's a work-a-holic and can be very, very selfish and from what I hear basically expects this new girl to be his mother/waitress/cleaning lady. I recognize I would not be happy with a man who would expect me to give up my life to take care of his, as this girl has done, however, it breaks my heart when I think of them getting married. Which makes me mad at myself on top of being upset about them. Have any of you gone through this and what did you do to snap yourself out of it? My friends have been great in helping me through this but I'd love some advice from some neutral people.
Thanks.

I think it's a matter of finding someone else to be interested in.