Ex got married

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Ex got married
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 8:46am
Well, I told you all a few months ago that I have been in contact with my ex (the one who broke my heart years ago). It has been great talking with him and I got some much needed closure from the whole thing. I never wanted to get back together with him - we didn't work out for some very important reasons. He just told me that he got married and even though I knew we are over and held no hopes (or needs even) for anything to happen between us again, it still really hurts. That he should find love and be married while I still struggle hurts more than I can say. I am sitting at work desperately trying not to break down bawling. Ugh...

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: auntjules
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:48pm

>>I know that I am better off without him. B*st*rd.<<

Go with that! Anger can sometimes help you get through these things, and it sounds like you really are the lucky one in this situation.

I also agree with the other posters who said to let yourself cry. You experienced a loss, and it's normal for this guy's marriage to bring up some old hurts for you. Cry a lot, then get good and p****d off, and then you eventually will be able to let it go. :)

Hang in there.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: auntjules
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 12:53pm
I don't blame you... I'd get angry, too. And then I'd tell him. And then I'd never talk to him again. This is definitely grudge-worthy.
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In reply to: auntjules
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 9:32pm

I know I'm late, but I'm sending you the scary-looking pink bear anyway.

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In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 8:42am

Thanks, Shy. I didn't drink anything last night, I just went and got a pedicure and massage instead. A bit more expensive but a ton better on the liver. I feel 100% better today. Now I am just a bit angry at how he handled the whole thing - what a turd.

And Lesley - I wanted to tell you how much your sweet post helped me yesterday. It made me start crying again, but it was really nice and I really appreciated it.

To make matters better, I posted an ad on Craig's List in DC asking someone to have dinner with me (but making clear that it was just dinner and no intimacy) since I will be there for work the remainder of this week and I got a great email from one guy. We wrote back and forth and he asked for a picture. After I sent it, he just wrote back, "Wow! You're CUTE!" :-) It was just the little confidence booster I neede.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 8:48am

Well, I meant it. I feel bad that it made you cry but I understand why. You get to that point where you're at the edge and any emotion turns into crying. That's why I don't watch TV when I'm having a bad day- if there's a Hallmark commercial, look out! :-)

That's pretty cool about your ad! It's always nice to have boosts like that. Let us know how it goes!

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Registered: 12-05-2005
In reply to: auntjules
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 7:54pm

Glad to see you're feeling better Jules :)Try to find the silver lining even if its pitch black out.

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I can relate to that one! I went to see Chronicles of Narnia on New Years day....and I was upset a bit to begin with...but then they showed the preview for that movie with the husky dogs and Paul Walker? Where they get abandond somewhere super cold? That started the tears, and during Narnia anytime anything even a little bit sad happened I was in tears again. OOh I'm such a crybaby sometimes.

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