an exciting life vs. the daily hastle
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| Wed, 10-10-2007 - 3:17am |
Hello. First off, I should let you all know I'm a guy, 27 y/o, but there's kind of something I need to know from women.
It seems like women nowadays are after guys who lead an "exciting" lifestyle. Just overhearing women out and about or looking on online personals, women are after guys who drive bikes, play in a band at cool, trendy bars, travel on a whim, party like rock stars and so forth.
The thing is, how can I meet someone when I can't reasonably live such a lifestyle. Believe me, I would love to, but how can I? I work 30-40 hours a week at a pharmacy pretty much out in the middle of nowhere, basically struggling to pay off student loans and trying to get my masters (haven't decided yet if I will/can go to grad school). I spend about 6-8 hours a day at work, I take evening courses and spend about 1 hour to an hour and a half everyday just driving between home, school and work.
I only get Saturdays off, and an occasional Sunday. I usually spend my weekends at my parents' place, helping my dad with the lawn and my mom with the garden and playing videogames with my teenage brother. Maybe once or twice a month I'll take the day off for myself and just drive over to Boston just to walk around, site-see, maybe check out a bar or two or see some live music. That's about the most excitement I have.
I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm complaining or self pitying, but the truth is, I'm just tired and frustrated because I've been working so hard for so long and haven't met anyone in a really long time, and it's really been starting to sink in and get to me recently. I can't go out to expensive clubs and bars, I can't collect bikes and guitars, but I'm trying my best to have whatever fun in the little free time I have while stilling living within my means as possible. What more can a woman expect from me? What more can women expect from men these days?

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Why don't you set aside a day where you can devote to a hobby and get involved in a group of people (not your family) and you will start meeting people. I'm making time to go to a hobby related class (cooking class & biking group) and I'm going to a couple festivals during the weekends this fall. I bet I could meet some guys that way. I think people are attractive who have the ability to create happiness in their life, and no one can really tell you what that recipe is. Maybe that excitement you refer to is more of an attitude/state of mind than anything else? And/or ability to find something that makes you happy that doesn't have anything to do with work.
By the way, stability & success are very important qualities that I'm looking for...I don't doubt there are millions of women who think the same thing. good for you for working so hard. I hope you enjoy what you do, too. Definitely make time to do something you enjoy!
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